how many times a week?

Just let her know, again, how I'm feeling about the lack of sex. She said she had no idea. I'm not sure how she could have no idea, as I've done everything from strong hints, to outright saying it to her for a while now.

She enjoys the flirting and massage, but doesn't apparently think that they are sexual in nature. Neither is me saying we should have sex... A nice night out to dinner and a movie leads to, early sleep.

She promised to do better. We'll see. I'm going to ask her again what she expects are signals of my interest, and what she'd like for me to do. The normal stuff isn't doing much

 

After being married 17 yrs. we were in a similar spot. She just didn't seem interested. We were going to a conference together on a 3 day weekend. I took a risk and bought our first sex toy (actually several), burned a cd of songs we loved, had flowers in our room and did anything else I could think of make the weekend romantic. The sex toys could have derailed the whole thing, but actually were the hit of the weekend. In fact, it was her first multi-orgasmic experience (that I know of). Needless to say, we missed most of the conference but went home with big smiles. Made a huge difference in our marriage.

 

As I have matured, I've come across more of these situations, where I am truly astonished that the other person is not only not getting the message I feel I am sending, they are completely oblivious to my even sending it!
It's very frustrating but once you realize it is happening, you can work to make things better.

 

Don't give up.
My spouse is almost a male version of your wife and prior to him I never had to put the moves on a man (though if dating I would if he signaled interest). It's been a real challenge to come right out with it and say I have needs, I love you and I miss you.
I went through a long period of feeling hugely unattractive because of his inattention and I actually did let myself go. Once I decided to 'do or die trying' I dropped some weight, toned up a bit and gained some of my confidence back.
I don't think it will ever be easy because he just doesn't communicate and sex is a low priority.
Just the same, I put the moves on him tonight, we had crazy monkey sex then 2 hours of awesome pillow talk.

 

That sounds awesome

 

Woot, primate intercourse, of the insane variety.

( I'd settle for mundane lemur sex about now )

 

Ringtail? Or Wooly?

 

It was. I want MOAR!!!

 

Clarice Starling at dinner with Hannibal right there.
Very sexy.

 

i would too

 

Once this week, but the low count is my fault this time. We're both sick, I hope that's why. We're talking about it though, so that's looking up.

 

I feel like I'm bragging...but I got MOAR...and I didn't even have to ask!

 

None yet, but I haven't been feeling great.

 

Brag all you want!

 

none... still

 

Twice over the weekend. It was killer.

 

Still waiting for this week to commence. She's worked Sunday night, Monday night, and tonight also... It's hard to get busy when she isn't around.

 

I empathize. Since we are speaking frankly here, can I ask if 'nighttime' is the only time you guys would have the chance for alone time?
Recently, we made time at about 8 p.m. and it worked out exceptionally well. Usually it's late and we, and I suspect many people, are torn between making love and getting much-needed sleep. I guess what I'm suggesting is trying to find private time at a time other than the regular time.