Taking Them Back...

has anyone on TFP ever gotten out of a relationship with someone voluntarily or otherwise) and then had the opportunity presented to get back with that person? My previous SO (the one i came within a hair's breadth of proposing to) told me she didn't love me anymore the day after my eye surgery, nearly 2 years into our relationship. Today she told me that she misses me and still loves me and wants me to forgive her. i will certainly forgive her, but i just don't love her anymore and won't be restarting the countdown on another emotional nuke. that and my current SO is way cooler and waaaaay hotter. and the whole distance thing...

has this ever happened to you TFP? what did you do? circumstances?

 

Suddenly...

I'll post something more useful later.

 

1.) Girl, you done had your chance.
2.) Problems will still be there.
3.) Baggage from previous break up.
4.) Loss of trust (trust issues).
5.) Major Car Wreck Worst Than I-75 Pile Up outside of Gainesville.

Did it once. Did it twice. Regret both times. DONT DO IT MAN.
/neanderthal.

 

See, I have no problem with someone being honest about their feelings. You can fall out of love just as easily as you can fall inlove.

Sure, that honest and truth can really hurt, but I'll always respect it.

What I can't really go in for is the sudden change of mind. I love you! noidon't I STILL LOVE YOU! maybe not so much anymore..... How bout you sort your shit out then come rattle my cage, hmmmm?

I'm a very forgiving individual, but for me, it just shakes my market confidence a little. Why invest all that emotional energy into something that's already crashed and burned before?

Having said all that though, life is only shades of grey and people have been known to change. Sometimes you need give these things a second chance if you can accept the risks.

 

as one who just took that same dip (getting back with an ex) I say go for it, but cautiously.
Although there is ONE ex, who should she confess her undying love for me and her regret for us having broken up in the most sincere, heartfelt way, I would laugh in her face maniacally and send her on her way.

I guess it all depends

 

In general I would say that getting back with an ex is a bad idea.

There was a reason things didn't work out the first time. More likely than not, that hasn't changed.

 

Did it once, it lasted maybe 6 months. Once the some old same old showed up, I put on my coat and walked out.

 

its usually a bad idea...

i have however, in the midst of not very serious relationships, strollled back to old girlfriends to maintian variety, but i would never do that to someone i cared about, or that i thought really cared about me...

Just the truth...

 

Dated my wife for 2 years... split up for a year. She called and said she'd like to see me again. 20+ years and 3 kids later, we're still getting on each others' nerves, but still married.

 

It can work. 32 years and counting for QW and me.

 

I have exactly one ex that I would consider trying again. We just had too many logistical problems, not so much personality issues. Luckily she's happily married, as am I, so it's all theoretical. My general feeling is that you shouldn't go back, but you have to consider what broke you up first.

 

precisely my argument to my previous SO after i got the "i still love you" text

 

I've gotten back together with three exes after we broke up, some were them chasing me down, some were me chasing them down.

Was it the best idea? Each of situation, each person, each reason for breaking up in the first place was different. I'm one of those people where, if I think the other person genuinely wants to try to save the relationship, I'll do my best to do so.

Anyhow, even though you've clearly already made your decision, my two cents is that you know the situation best, you know the person best (well, most likely), you know what the healthiest and most successful road should be.

 

C'mon, now. Let's be honest: how quick did you go from "Hi, ex!" to orgasm?

Way too many people wanna get back together because the sex was good.

I am one of them.

 

Ex wanted to get back together, I've been resisting the urge because as said above probably would get back together as the sex was good.

 

None, actually. Funnily enough, I can get decent sex from multiple sources when I want it. The trick is to getting those multiple sources to have sex with me at the same time. Guys are so bitchy about being in the same girl at once, I swear.

 

...only if their balls touch.

 

pfft, maybe where you're from

 

Wherever you're from, I need to move there.