calling all ladies.. I need help!!!!

I'm going to cut to the chase, basics: I'm 18, female and I am a virgin. I've been masterbating for years (I don't have any toys). I get lots of pleasure and its like I work my way up the hill and for some reason I can't get over it. I get so close to orgasming and yet I can't achieve it. It is extremelly frustrating!!

So what I need is advice/tips/ANYTHING to help me. Please .

 

Ah I'm ways to shy to go buy one though and if I order online, my mother might see it, and I do not want to have that "oh I'll stay down here for a while' look lol. Any ideas how I could get around this?

 

I know im not a lady, bit I couldn't help reading this thread. My question is why are you too shy to buy one?

Myself when I go buy them I go to starship. It's just a erotic shop that sells everything from toys, movies to smoking accessories. I used to feel like when I went there that everyone was looking at me funny, but then I realized that they were in there too. Everyone has their own reason for being in there and the employees aren't going to judge you, their just there to help you.

I have bought them online before and they came all packaged up nice and pretty and were not looking like o bought some porn. They were discreet. I just prefer to go in the store cause they have thousands of choices. Do you have a friend that you could mail them to their house? Good luck

 

I agree with you Ralphie. Theres no need to be embarrassed. Everyone you see in that store is there for the same reason that you are. They don't judge at all. I remember getting my first toy and it was well worth it.

 

my wife ordered her first vib from http://www.drugstore.com/ it was a pocket rocket. small and nobody noticed or thought anything

 

Most online shops, including Adam&Eve, LoversLane, Amazon etc, will not send you sex toys, enhancers etc in a bag or box with a fat label on it that screams "VIBRATOR INSIDE". It's always in plain packaging and often times, the company name and address are not obvious either. So there is no reason to be scared that a package with these inside will be seen as such unless it's opened by the mother.

Other than that, maybe the ladies will help you out with manual masturbation if you still don't want to purchase these items online. If you'd rather go into a store, don't be shy; you'll see all types and shapes of people in these shops and they're doing the same thing you are doing. Enjoy yourself and explore your body in your own way.

 

I'll be honest, I was absolutely mortified when I bought my first vibe. At the time, the only place close to me that sold anything sex-related was a strip club. I walked in, stumbled through an explanation that I just wanted to go to the store, not see the ladies (turns out I got in free anyway), and kept my head down the entire time.

I must have looked very obviously naive and embarrassed, because one of the employees came over and explained how purchasing worked (they had a system where you put your item or items in a black plastic bag, then carried it to the cashier, so no one else saw what you were buying. I don't know if other stores do that, but I was very relieved at the time that this particular one did.)

Anyway, long story short, my first vibe purchase was awkward and embarrassing. AND TOTALLY WORTH IT. I've never been able to get off manually by myself, and having a bit of help made a huge difference. Yeah, you might want the floor to open up beneath your feet while you're buying it. You might turn several non-sexy shades of red. You might stutter and stammer so much, the employees think you have a speech impediment. I felt and did all of these things. But I got through it, and I'm really glad I did. And I can laugh about it now.

 

....and the point of course, was YOU CAN DO THE SAME THING (I know there's good reasoning for not being able to edit after fifteen minutes, but seriously, it's killin' me, Smalls.) Or just, y'know, have it delivered and don't tell your mom

 

Once you stop trying, it will work. Just stop focusing on the goal and start zeroing in on the sensations and eventually you should hit your mark. You’re indirectly pressuring yourself to reach the big O, and thus is has become elusive for this reason.

There is something raw and beautiful about getting off without batteries. I don’t have the patience to bother anymore. I almost hate recommending those things, when they can become a cold-hearted replacement for a natural wonder.

But…u gotta get there, girl. Try it.

 

Of course not.
That's what college friends are for when you go home for spring break.

 

I, like Raphie, am not a girl, but I can help, because I'm awesome.
Girls night out. Embarassment disapates in crowds. Hang out with a few friends, tell them to meet you at some bar/resturant that happens to be adjacent to a clean, well lit, not side of the road sex shop. They don't have to know you have an alterior motive. Just make sure they/she would be cool with it. Take your friend(s) in on a lark and make your puchase.

Tell them 'It's for Sheryl, she's such a whore. '

you're welcome

Oh yeah, go online and look around, give yourself an idea of what you want.
While you are there say hi to the soccor moms and other normal people who have gotten over their own embarassment

or....or
Fall in love and get some

 

Trojan is now selling vibes. Almost every drug store sells them, usually near the condoms.

Another suggestion is look up a local lingerie store. Lots of them sell sex toys, too, and usually all of the employees are women. Don't be embarrassed. They sell them everyday and never think about it. I'll be everyone working there has taken home a few.

I like what Snowy said about watching some porn, even softcore like the cable series Bliss, Red Shoe Diaries, or Black Tie Nights. It will take you concentration off of "I'm almost there...I'm almost there..." and will get you there. Let us know when it happens!

 

Hello, pumpkin.

(I'm male)

Regarding my own masturbation, I go through phases when there'll be no orgasming unless I stimulate other parts of my body. I'd put that on your check list of things to try if you're not already doing them. I, too, find that romantic and erotic fantasies are a very important part of the process. Given that you are a virgin, it might be worth mentioning that fantasies are great ways of assessing what you might or might not want to be part of your experience with different people or at different phases of your life. What turns you on more or less when masturbating can be a great education as well as a lot of fun. Speaking for myself, it can steer the direction as well as the intensity of my developing pleasure.

Hmm. Let's see ... Now, I'm going back in my memory to when I was a virgin and masturbating ... in my parental home, my big 'interference' was the fear of and potential for getting caught in the act. I know you'd be mortified if your mother found a sex-toy thrusting its way into the family mailbox, so I wonder, do you have a reasonably sacrosanct privacy in your room? I don't know about you, but as I approach the climax, I risk generating more noise, both through the vigour of my motion and the stridency of my cries. Or does the very idea of parents living there have any effect, even if they are not in the house at the time?

In any case, it's worth bearing the following in mind: the Hitachi Magic Wand has a reputation for being very powerful and effective. It is sold on Amazon, and is sold as a Massager. A brilliant bit of kit whose erotic potential is veiled by the original therapeutic intent of the manufacturer. 'Hey, mom, I get neck aches - it's a massager'.

I certainly support the beauty of a flesh-on flesh orgasm, including when all the flesh is your own. I also support toys as a valid and often magnificent addition. However, at the moment, you have not experienced your first orgasm. What you have been doing so far has not been working, and, let's face it, a toy-induced orgasm will be AN ORGASM, and, once you've experienced this, your future masturbations will no longer be attempts to cross a bridge-without-known-destination. You'll have a better idea where you're going and what final maneuvers you might need. For example, a friend of mine lives on a housing estate .. .the numbers are all over the place, and the 'correct road' only gets me to the housing estate .. the general area. For years, my taxi driver and I were seriously frustrated. At the end of the long journey, we'd have to be 'steered in' by the person I was visiting. Eventually, we had a robust experiential map of the destination. We did need external assistance to 'get there' in the early days of achieving, but eventually, arriving became something we could do all by ourselves.

 

Please... stop using "vibe" as an abbreviation for "vibrator".

*sees his manhood shrink into oblivion as he recalls the many nights he partied at Club Vibe*

 

It might stand for that. Lol

 

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-+-{Important TFP Staff Message}-+- pumpkin, I think you made it pretty clear you were looking for female opinions only. If that's still the case, please let me or any other staffer know, either here or in private. It's your right if you want it. But if you're ok with it, so are we.

 

pumpkin : immediate apology to you from me - I should have checked with you if male input would be OK before offering my response, and if a similar situation occurs in future, I shall make sure to do so.

 

Same for me. Sorry