#MeToo

@Lindy and @Herculite , I'm not going to get into conspiracy theories.
If you want to talk about ethics for this, that fine. There's a high bar set for murder and high crimes.

 

‘I am not okay’: The remarkable response to the Charlie Rose allegations, from his CBS colleagues

Y'know...one thing that many forget is it's not just the targets and alleged perps that are affected.
But those close to either.
I've got to respect how these newscasters are handling the shocking accusations of their longtime co-host AND friend.
And everyone reacts to it differently.
Some can be all business, some are rocked to the core and are disoriented and even scared.

And even if found to be untrue in the long run, ties are broken...the floodwaters have done their damage, rot even setting in.
It's a surreal moment...twisting your stomach.

 

These situations so often lead, sadly, to throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Whatever good contributions to the person's profession or craft are just lost in the scandal. Years of accomplishments tarnished because the guy couldn't keep his hands to himself and his dick in his pants.

 

I've learned 2 new trending phrases....

• sexual impropriety
  
• sexual misconduct

Which I actually agree with...and is a better use for what's going on for most of these reveals than "sexual assault" which is just under Rape.
They are at a higher level and should be taken seriously from legal context.
Like comparing a punch to the face versus murder.
Or a verbal cursing out in public versus a punch to the face.

Is it wrong??? YES, no doubt. And all should be outed and addressed.
Sexual situations are gray often. And can vary in levels of impact and context...social, physical, legal, etc.

For example...and honestly, it's a weird week for me...but I've had multiple women at different times, even complete strangers, do "sexual impropriety" to me, if I'm interpreting it correct. (don't ask, it was "different"...)
Now, I didn't call it out because I didn't want to make a scene or an awkward moment...but these ladies were definitely going over boundaries without asking me first.
If one of them had gone as far as grabbing my ass or junk or kissing me...then that would be "sexual misconduct", I would think.

What do you think???

 

Lawmakers call for swift consequences in harassment cases but are divided over calls for resignation

Ok...good question
How much is too much? How much is not enough??

Hard part is 3 fold
One side is that politicians have repressed/avoided that question for TOO long.
The other side is you don't want to get rid of MOSTLY good reps who've been stupid...throwing out the baby with bathwater.
AND this is politics....you've got to KNOW that it could be a easy ploy or leverage to play against your opponents or those against your agenda. (whether true OR not)

This is going to be a Pandora's Box for a while.

And this shit ain't new under the sun, because it's as old as the original creation of the legend of Pandora's Box...if not earlier.
Thousands of years of this BS...this is just the next wave in the cycle.

Y'know what?? WE are the suckers...because we as whole keep voting these idiots in...and keep them in.

 

We’re at risk of turning #metoo into rush to blame all men

This happened in 1997 at MTV. Some people were harassed and everyone had to take Sexual Harassment and Diversity training. Now understand that everyone was fucking everyone. Guys were fucking guys, girls were fucking guys, girls were fucking girls. Everyone was sleeping with each other. It was nuts! I hooked up with 2 people at that office and probably could have hooked up with several more.

Also, happened at MTV I had to talk to one of my staff about him talking on the phone to his friends about his exploits from the weekend. No, it wasn't directed to anyone inside the office, but in a cubicle, words will carry to other people's cubicles. I had to tell him to be more discrete. He didn't realize it. End of story.

 

well, again Consent is key.

1. ALL have to learn to draw lines, boundaries and terms. They cannot just "let it happen" because of whatever reason... (fear, shame, awkwardness, politics, peer pressure, etc and so on...)
2. ALL have to immediately accept, stop and withdraw immediately if someone indicates ANY negative, including body movement (pushing away, saying 'no', shaking head, etc)

Sorry, no more people just getting "taken"...unless you've agreed ahead (don't care if its a fantasy or desire, too much legal impact or misinterpretation)
No more saying...No, Stop, etc...while in throws of passion...unless you've agreed BEFORE.
Safe words need to start becoming more of a norm. Don't be surprised if you have to stop at ANY point in the situation, even in the middle of it.
ALL need to start becoming more socially aware and discussing like adults.

EVERYONE is "jail bate" for ANY age or situation, unless agreed to BEFORE. And you're going to have to assume. Unless ya wanna lawyer up constantly.

Problem is, this HAS screwed it up for many of the positive spontaneous sexual situations. Because many break the speed limit and have bad "driving habits", so to speak.
So now, everyone is going to have to do "defensive driving" AND new laws are going to happen.
Cops and judges will now say...the limit IS the limit. With people having to understand this or suffer the consequences.

Welcome to a new age for men and women. (gay, straight...and all points inbetween)

And lots new training...grown ups ARE going to have to train kids now...just like driving.
No more avoiding the discussions or thinking it's "bad" or inappropriate. Too many legal consequences.

Maybe that's a good thing in the long run.
EVERYONE starts taking responsibility...both asking & waiting AND setting boundaries/lines/terms

It's just going to be a very bumpy road until it smooths out.

 

Well, Matt Lauer been kind of a dick to others working with him...and sometimes arrogant. So it doesn't surprise me much.
But Garrison Keillor???
Garrison Keillor fired for alleged 'inappropriate behavior' by Minnesota Public Radio

 

Y'know...I'm not really for either side, male or female, all screw up...although I do KNOW and believe women in great volume have gotten a bad and raw deal through the past and even now.
BUT
I "wish" everyone, especially women, would stop saying they are "heartbroken", that the perp is a "dear" friend, and so on...
Shocked, sure...Surprise, yep...and so on.

Please stop giving the obvious bad behaving people the benefit of the doubt and being passive to them and being emphatic to the perp.
Sure...if it's a vague and unconfirmed allegation...perhaps. Or the emergence is political "gotcha".
But if it's blatant and trending...a patten, STOP.
This is why we have a maniac at the helm now.
WHY? give a break to people who have done terrible things??

They fucked up. REPEATEDLY. Over the top action, not just "slips" or miscommunication/misinterpretations.
Please stop using love, etc...and other romantic verbiage to soften the perp's image
Sure, they're your friend
But obviously your friend has lied to you and hurt others and led a double life.
Would you do the same to a thief or murderer??

Anyways, this makes me cringe whenever I hear the remaining announcers speak. (and strangely enough...it's ladies, not guys -- correct me if I'm wrong, please)
Just my opinion, but it annoys the crap out of me.

I'm all for innocent until proven guilty, truly...but when its obvious and a pattern...shut it down.
They need to build trust again, if ever.
I certainly wouldn't expect people to treat me decent if I was a dick...no matter how charming or decent-looking, I might be.

But I guess that's the problem, people DO judge a book by its cover (or power, or brand) and believe the hype/spin/scam.
And the hustle keeps happening...

 

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