How do you feel about your body?

I now work with quite a few guys from the pacific islands. I'm starting to be more positive, and I think it's because they talk about females they find attractive, and they're not super skinny model types. And not diva types like Beyoncé and J-lo..

Could also be I'm replacing fat with muscle.

 

I was basically body "unaware" for the first 35 years of my life. I didn't think a whole lot of it. I didn't admire myself in the mirror. I didn't fret in the same mirror. I didn't hate my body, I didn't love my body, I was vaguely aware I had one.

Started getting fat, unaware, started getting less attractive, unaware, pictures just always seemed "wrong" but not me, cause I didn't look that bad. Then rather suddenly I realized I did look that bad. I do wonder if it weren't for my lifestyle if I'd have ever really noticed it. Well anyways I got my ass in shape, and now I look for excuses to take my shirt off.



I used to be slightly tall, now I'm decidedly average at 6'. Apparently thats the new average for America and I believe it being I feel quite short next to the the last few generations. I suppose this means I have no advantages or disadvantages.



Edit: I suppose I should answer the question. I'm happy with my body, but I'm not satisfied with my body. Some say want is the root of unhappiness, but want is the root of rockets and porno too.

 

My body has never worked quite right most everything dislocates but I get along as best I can. Surgery from childhood changed the way it interacted with the world. I had to learn to walk many times, I developed very strong back & shoulders from being on crutches then later wheels. I've been super skinny, quite fat, pretty much everything in between. My mom was very slim when I was a child but she hated her body and always felt like it was wrong. That rubbed off a bit as did other family members body views. When I was a teen she took up bellydancing and that gave her some peace within her own skin. She was damn good too! <3

However as an adult I was able with some extra care to carry my two children and give birth to them. Breastfeeding was very important to my husband and myself as neither of us had been. So this body nursed my babes until one was 18 months and the other just over 2 years. I appreciate that about my body, that it could nourish our children and help give them a good start. I did not gain much weight with pregnancy and lost it the 1st month after birth. My midwives made catty rude comments about the weight loss, and that was the day I got rid of the scale. We've never had one in the house since. My boobs are not perky but they are mine and still do okay in a bikini top, which is often more comfy than a bra as my shoulders and ribs dislocate. Lol.

My left leg does not work much at all and inside the bones have been eaten away so are quite jagged and remind me of pale coral reef. There are screws, tendons split, hamstrings threaded to knees, and all sorts of oddities about my legs. They hurt every day and night, cannot take most painkillers including NSAIDs as have ulcers & tummy bleeds. There have been times that the sight of my legs and scars have offended others, but I learned as a young girl that there will always be someone making judgements but also that most people don't care, and everyone has their own failings and insecurities. When I could walk I became a bellydancer after a rough surgery, I will be one again. I have ridiculous flexibility and love kundalini yoga.

I'm 42 years old somewhere between healthy and probably borderline overweight, my BMI number is 23 which is okay, but should be lower. When standing I used to be 5'7" but now my spine has compressed from older ill fitting wheelchairs and I stand 5'6", on my wheels I'm about the height of a 5 year old. My eyes are green, I was a redhead as a child, but now am auburn, or whatever color I feel like dyeing it. I'm pale as a ghost but LOVE the sun and wear a lot of sunscreen. I loathe my nose but what are you going to do. I have stretchmarks, a puffed tummy, and a fluffy bum.

I don't love my crutches as I huff and puff, sweat, shake, and look generally deranged after being on them long. I use them anyway when I can. My neon pink wheels with kick ass bike tires are my freedom! They help me navigate a wide variety of terrains, go to lakes, camping , and down trails! I love them with my whole heart! My arms and back are getting strong again which is progress I'm happy to be making!

 

Reading some of the other posts reminds me that I should be more grateful for having a pretty much fully-functioning body... but the truth is that most of the time I am very aware that I consider myself inherently undesirable and unattractive, particularly physically to women.

 

im a fat bastard with a little dick. need I say more?

 

Everyone has things we don't like about ourselves, you are not alone in that. Now, @musicale why do you consider yourself unattractive and undesirable? What is one trait physical or not that you DO like about you?

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My husband always called himself a fat bastard too. He has not for a few months now, but I don't know if that is because he is changing himself now or realized that was destructive language. We both engage in negative self talk and both try to be aware of it.

As for your penis think about all of the great and happy times he brings into your life! Life is not a contest with one winner, he who has the biggest dick does not win at everything, nor does he with the smallest lose at everything. Life is balance give the fella a break and let him know you appreciate his years of service.

 

Hey, I get to update this thread with good news! I don't look like that picture anymore.

I still hate my body because I know how hard it's going to be to get to the lean muscle mass I want, but losing weight was a step in the right direction.

I'd KILL to have a larger body so I can pack on more muscle. That's genetics for ya.

Edit: I CAN LOOK DOWN AND SEE MY DICK AGAIN!

 

I'm just not conventionally attractive. I'm not tall (170cm which is about 5'7"), quite overweight (85kg which is about 187lb), bald, not great teeth etc. What I found interesting is that in my most recent relationship, the stunning girl that I was seeing was very insecure about her own appearance (she described her face as being average, said her breasts were too small and her bum and her belly too big) and resisted letting me see her completely nude in the light, while I thought she was so painfully beautiful that it was almost too much emotionally for me to look at her... and she dismissed my own physical insecurities as being completely ridiculous. Guess we are all our own worst critics.

 

one day ill be able to do taht

 

I just want my wife to look down and see I have a dick. </Drum Roll - Cymbal crash!!!!>

 

that would be nice

 

I'm so glad I can't look down and see a dick.

 

It's a great feeling. Just have your man put his between your legs and look down. You will feel powerful.

ALL HAIL THE MIGHTY PENIS.

 

mine isn't big enough to do that lol

 

Dude, you are about the same size as me and I ain't small. We top of the bell curve.

 

I think I have a white shimmery strap-on that I used on my last girlfriend...Would that count?

 

I'm pretty sure that counts.

Wait, strapon with a wheelchair? Did that make you a fucking machine? LOL

 

Hehehe! Must refrain from posting a GIF response *grin* Erm... one does not have to be seated to use one, I got creative, lol. *blush* I think maybe I overshare.