Having a big dick isn't all its cracked up to be

I've been thinking about an issue of mine, I didn't know was really an issue until recently. It turns out I have something of a bigger dick than I thought, at least as compared to average.

Depending on the study you use, the average penis is 5.5 inches by 4.8 inches, with the biggest possible average being 6.3 (probably false), and the lowest average 5.2 (15,000 sample size but most using flaccid stretched measurements so not perfect).

To get this, they used what is called a "bone pressed" measurement, meaning you take a ruler and force it against the pubic bone when measuring length, not just the shaft. This is a way to keep the measurements constant and account for the fat pad being different.

Long story short, (ok I didn't mean to do that when I wrote that), I'm 7" by 6". This puts me somewhere between the 94-99% for length and the 99% for girth (again depending on study).

This isn't a brag, humble brag, or anything else, its the truth and it turns out the truth hurts a bit.

PLOS ONE: Women's Preferences for Penis Size: A New Research Method Using Selection among 3D Models

The TL; DR of that study.

"But enough methodological foreplay. Here is the size and shape of the ideal penis according to this sample of 75 women. For a long-term partner, the women reported an ideal length of 6.3 inches and an ideal circumference of 4.8 inches. For a one-night stand—described by the researcher conducting the experiment as a man who is “kind, intelligent, funny, and has a great job”—the sample indicated that 6.4 inches long and 5 inches around would be best."

(The above was a cut and paste from a synopsis by another site)

So I'm bigger than average, length is a slight problem, girth is the bigger one.

Length meant my wife can't use an IUD. She tried, and I would bang on it constantly. The MD didn't think this was possible. She shortened the strings. Still banged on it (it hurt), so we had it removed.

Length means some positions are painful. Legs up? She better be ovulating, maximal horny. Doggy? Gotta be careful. Flagpole? Good luck. Anal? ... yea... no

Crazy ruff sex? Shes going to be bleeding a bit after.

Girth though is the real issue. One time I was having sex with a woman in an FMF and the other turned to my wife and said "You take this EVERY night?". This woman is a lot of fun and is a believer that sex at least every night is a good thing for a relationship. She assumed everyone was like that. My wife is a two times a week max. Shes usually sore. You can get creative with being too long, she can sort of "set the depth" in missionary. You can't fudge girth.

A minor issue that took me some time to overcome too is that condoms no longer fit unless I buy the large ones. I'm lucky magnums work for me (they flare at the top for girth) but a little bigger and I'd have a hard time finding ones that fit. Magnums might be sold as a marketing gimmick, but much like "gluten free" helps people with celiacs, this helps me.

There is a myth about condom size and how "if a man says they don't fit they are a liar, you can fit it over your head if you try" which is true but that doesn't mean they "fit". Too much pressure kills all feeling and quickly kills your boner. My guess is there are guys out there that think they have ED which really is condom related. First time it happened to me I thought I just couldn't keep it up (long story) but it was the condom. Recently we had some spontaneous swinger sex, she had her own condoms, I didn't have mine, same issue.

So the long and the short of it, is I don't get to have sex as often as I'd like, my wife has a sore vagina, condoms are iffy, oh and I don't last as long as I'd like since the girth makes EVERY woman tight.

What funny is I know some guys would kill to have my "problems" but maybe you need a big dick to see how utterly unimportant having one is. It doesn't get me laid more. It doesn't get me status. It doesn't even get me a happier wife sex wise. What is also funny to me is if the dick fairy came around and said "Hey I could make you average size!" I wouldn't because we as men have this so ingrained in our brains that it matters that it does matter even when it obviously doesn't.

 

The average man looks at a big dick and wishes it was him until they have that . like the op says,,
It can suck.,now I don't have that problem so I can't say. Do I ever wish I was bigger, yes, but not to the extreme where I couldn't have enjoyable sex. But it's all in our (mens) heads. Its like we see a man in a Lamborghini and think I want one. But in reality do we?

 

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While the desire to have a larger penis can get into "actually, no, you really don't want that" territory, the desire to be larger to get closer to average is certainly understandable.

But as has been pointed out many times--Learn to use what you have. And IME make intercourse part of the experience, not THE experience (but don't exclude hot straight-to-the-point sex ).

 

I have no problem with my 6.25" size, I only wish I could actually use it with a woman sometime.

 

So, what you're saying is that it fits your hand just fine!

 

I freely admit that I am on the smaller size of average, and I'm okay with that. When I was a teenager I had dick size issues up the yin yang, and it probably didn't do my confidence any good. When I got a little older, and realized, "Dude, it's your dick, and this is life. There's nothing you can do about it. And if you're already naked with a girl, you're kinda already over the difficult part," I chilled out a little. Fortunately, starting from when I was pretty young, I realized (in part due to dick size, in part due to weight, in part due to looks) that I wasn't about to get girls throwing themselves at me, and if I wanted girls to want to be with me, I had better learn how to pleasure a girl skillfully.

So the older I got, the more comfortable I got with the fact that no girl was ever going to look at my dick and go "Wow!" Because I know how to use what I have okay, and more importantly, I know what to do with my tongue. That does make girls go "Wow!" And that's good enough for me.

Of course, in the end, what really helped get rid of my dick size issues was marriage. Nothing like having someone telling you that they are willing to accept your whole package for life.

I like watching big dicks in action in porn, and I do sometimes fantasize about having a monster whang. But the truth is, I'm okay without.

 

Something about this really bothers me. For much of my life I had NO idea I was bigger than normal. I measured at one point and it was 5.5, at the time people said 6 was average, I thought I was below average and a little more girthy. I would have liked to be longer, but it was ok enough I thought and I had no complaints. As a swinger I thought we just ran into mostly smaller guys by luck, not that I was bigger.

But that doesn't bother me,what bothers me is I think my lack of understanding actually hurt some women a bit. Whats worse is that I just seem to attract petite girls, 5'4" and under (my wife is 5'7") but if you take everyone I've had sex with in the last 15 years, only one was taller than my wife and most were quite small. This isn't because I'm not attracted to tall women, its just who seems to be attracted to me (I'm 6'), I honestly think I must be better looking at an upward angle.

My wife has always been a pound the crap out of me woman, she likes it hard and fast, and she can mostly accommodate me, but I think that "style" and my lack of understanding has been a bad thing for some women. No one ever said anything directly, but I never told the woman who gave me the worst BJ of my life it was bad either. Knowing what i know now I think I'll be better sexually.

 

There is a bit of a problem there though. I'm really quite skilled at giving oral sex, so usually I make sure to give the woman an orgasm at least once before sex. In part I want to make sure she gets off because sometimes I think I come to fast (that old girth thing) so I want to make sure she had a good time. When you give a woman an orgasm though you can feel the change in her vagina. It gets tighter but less lubed, and if anything sex at this point is worse for her when you are larger. Basically women can take a bigger penis easier if they haven't already orgasmed.

 

I'm guessing that it would frustrating for a guy not to be able to go for an all-out balls-deep hammering, and the woman if that's what she wanted. One of our friends would get mad at her husband because at times he would get caught up in the moment, and she'd end up being sore for two to three days afterwards.

 

Wow, I've experienced precisely the reverse. Usually after I'm done going down on a woman she's WAY wetter than before I started. Like, rivers and streams.

Do you stop after one orgasm? To some extent, the "wetter after orgasm" thing I've found to be true even after one, at least somewhat, but I've always made a practice of eating a girl through as many orgasms as she can take. Depending on the woman, that's anywhere from three or four to "lost count after eleven." Not always easy on the ol' jaw muscles, but Lord help me if it doesn't make you mighty popular with your lady, and I guarantee that it does leave her wetter than the Amazon basin after thunderstorms.