QOTD #40: How often do you go out on a date?

Yes @Charlatan - my life is a Seinfeld episode at times...but I'm not Costanza, I'm Kramer

Oh yeah...and I seem to date female versions of Seinfeld

 

She re-opened communication. Perhaps she regrets, and picked up on your humor later, after the date. What could it hurt to give here another chance, she might be a little less on the rebound. I don't see what she did as totally contradicting.

Hard to know what to expect from an immature, twice-burned 25 yo, whether professional or not. The line between honesty and too much to soon is a crooked one, and hard to navigate. And even if not someone to "date," if you share some commonalities, she might make an interesting friend or companion. Who might have a friend...

 

Nope.
I was friendly and open.
She asked me about my dating experiences since, which I kept to "Decent. Up & Down...Some good, some not so good" (which is the truth)
Then she declared, "I'm giving up, I'm not finding anything. Happy Holidays"
To which I encouraged her to not give up and to be open.
And I got back in reply "Yep Yep"
And then sensing her shut down, I closed with wishing Happy Holiday and wish the best for you & yours.
I got back "Cool cool - all the best"

Listen, I'm a romantic and a optimist...but weird is weird...and closed off is closed off...and indecisive is indecisive.
There are many out there that are their own worst enemies.
I see it all the time.
But I cannot cure them.

I can say, "I'm here."
But it's up to the other person to figure it out.
Some just want, what doesn't exist.

Doesn't stop me dating, doesn't stop me trying though.

 

Well, guess what...many don't get out of middle school even into their adult years.
But unfortunately, they don't write that shit on their foreheads...you don't know until you experience some "situations" with them.

However, this is what time and experience has shown me...to respect myself enough to realize when someone is being a flake...and not to waste time on it.
Even this "complicated" romantic-minded dork with a rescuer complex can figure this out.

It's a TWO way street.
It can't be one person giving all the benefits of the doubt and bending over backwards, even for the idea of "romance"

And sorry, the other person has to be considerate and distinctly state their desires.
I hate this "mystery" bullshit.
IMHO, that's just a cover for someone who wants their cake and to eat it too.
No commitment is no commitment.

This is why I don't chase after women unless they take the time to show the same interest...and talk...and respect...and consideration, etc...

 

Turns out we're going to go out for one in about an hour! I guess looking nice today inspired my husband

 

My date was fantastic! Lots of good conversation.

 

We usually have a mattress mambo date for Sunday morning, but I was out of town and didn't get home until mid-afternoon. Several of the local restaurants have what they call mid week date night with special discounts or menus for Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday. It's a good way to avoid the crowds on Friday or Saturday. We usually will hit one of those, with maybe something else before ore after. A play, concert/recital, sporting event. Neither of us are all that big movie fans. With the Christmas season, there are lots of musical offerings.

The important thing for a date is not what we do, but that we plan, and set aside a time to do something together. It makes the relationship feel more like a partnership, and not just roommates.