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QOTD #40: How often do you go out on a date?

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by genuinemommy, Dec 7, 2015.

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  1. genuinemommy

    genuinemommy Moderator Staff Member

    How often do you go out on dates?
    Are you single, married, other?
    Do you have children?
    Does your marital status or parental status impact your interest in going out?


    Tt and I don't get out much. Sure, we have a couple of young kiddos, but that doesn't have much to do with it. We are simply home-bodies. We would rather enjoy our time together at home than go out for a date. We were this way when we were unmarried and dating as well. I'd go to his place or he'd go to mine and we'd enjoy each other's company. It's the same now. We do sometimes have to go out in the evenings for work functions, in which case we have a couple of babysitters ready and waiting to help out. But we're just not interested in going out to eat at restaurants or seeing shows alone together. The last time we went out on a date was to see a production of The Magic Flute. It was late enough in the evening that we didn't want to mess with our older daughter's sleep schedule. But once we got there and saw how many children were there, we wished we had brought her to enjoy the show!
     
    genuinemommy, Dec 7, 2015
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  2. Borla

    Borla Moderator Staff Member

    The "going out" part excludes many of our date nights as being counted. As you described, we often enjoy staying in and just having an evening together. She likes to cook, I like to grill, and often what we consider "date nights" includes us making a really nice dinner together and relaxing at home with a movie or favorite show. We probably only actually go out for a real date maybe once or twice a month? And maybe once a month or so we go over to friends' houses for a nice dinner, if that counts as a date? This past summer we went to half a dozen or so different concerts, so I'd consider those "date nights" out. And I'm discounting the nights we went out together on vacation too, since I think that is a bit different than a night out from home. If you included vacation nights out, the average would more than double, but it wouldn't be a true representation of our day to day routine.

    Married.

    No children, just a very spoiled Bullmastiff and a very bratty cat.

    I don't think being married impacts our interest in going out. Not having kids, we are also free to do so whenever we like. I do think that the fact that I travel a couple days each week impacts it.
     
    Borla, Dec 7, 2015
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  3. Stan

    Stan Resident Dumbass

    Location:
    Colorado
    I'm not sure what qualifies as date night. We go out to concerts regularly, other shows occasionally, hiking, skiing, and whatever all the time. Toss in vacation and I could come up with a pretty large number.

    Going out to eat is always a matter of convenience, I prefer my own cooking.

    Married, empty nester, with an incredibly spoiled Newfoundland and Golden Retriever.
     
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  4. CinnamonGirl

    CinnamonGirl The Cheat is GROUNDED!

    Location:
    Central Republic of Where-In-The-Hell
    When @Lordeden was traveling all the time, we made it a point to have Date Night every weekend when he was home. Now that we work together, "date night" has morphed into "please go away and get out of my face for a few hours."

    We don't really go on a lot of "datey dates," like a fancy, this-is-a-special-occasion kind of thing. We go out to a nice-ish dinner on our birthdays and anniversary, but otherwise we're kind of homebodies (or gym rats, take your pick.) We did run a 5k together AND went to see a local dance studio's production of The Nutcracker this weekend, but that was a "busy" weekend for us, and definitely not the norm.

    We are not married, but we've lived together for five years. No kids, two dogs. I don't think our relationship status really matters, I think it's more the fact that we live together AND work together.
     
    CinnamonGirl, Dec 7, 2015
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  5. Stan

    Stan Resident Dumbass

    Location:
    Colorado
    For what it's worth, the first time I read this, it came out "How often do you put out on a date?". ... As often as I can :)
     
    Stan, Dec 7, 2015
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  6. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    Depends...if I'm with someone.
    If so, about once a week.

    I'd like more...but real life gets in the way.
    Especially work and the commute home.
     
    rogue49, Dec 7, 2015
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  7. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    Usually once a week. Typically, we go out for dinner together on Fridays as a "date night." This weekend, our Christmas shopping and lunch after was our date.
     
    snowy, Dec 7, 2015
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  8. Charlatan

    Charlatan sous les pavés, la plage

    Location:
    Temasek
    One of the few bits of good advice my Mom ever gave me was: Always make time for you and your wife.

    My wife and I both get busy and it's easy to get complacent, but we make time. That can be anything from going to the movies, or dinner to taking a trip somewhere. At the easiest, it's a staycation at a local hotel, at the extreme, we fly off to Cambodia or Thailand for the weekend.

    The important thing is to spend time together and get away from work, the kids and the house.
     
    Charlatan, Dec 8, 2015
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  9. itwasme

    itwasme But you'll never prove it. Donor

    Location:
    In the wind
    I'm not married anymore, and I don't date. I haven't since I became single about 2 years ago. Or was it 3? I'm just not interested in another one. They take too much time, energy, and patience. Doing things my way, without worrying about ruffling feathers, is too awesome to change. I'm enjoying my own company and the company of my girls.
     
    itwasme, Dec 8, 2015
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  10. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & be quiet.

    Location:
    Large City, TX
    Married for over 27 years. Our current "date," going on several years, is going maybe once a month to Pappa's BBQ and indulging in bacon cheeseburgers and real french fries.
     
    Chris Noyb, Dec 10, 2015
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  11. redravin

    redravin Cynical Optimist Donor

    Location:
    North
    I don't date per se but I have a male friend and a female friend who I go out with regularly for movies, food and assorted other date like activities.
    It isn't romantic but has the elements of a good date, conversation, shared interests, breaking bread together, and focused time on a consistent basis.

    To be honest they have made my life a whole lot better.
     
    redravin, Dec 10, 2015
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  12. PonyPotato

    PonyPotato Very Tilted

    Location:
    Columbus, OH
    I'm single and I've been on I think 4 dates in the last 4 months. Sigh.
     
    PonyPotato, Dec 10, 2015
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  13. ZombieSquirrel

    ZombieSquirrel Brrrrrrrains

    Location:
    Oregon by way of "Oh-hi-ya"
    With the baby, we don't go on dates much anymore. When Baba does babysit, it's because we have a function. It's not really a one on one date since there are other people.

    We are going to San Fran the weekend before Christmas. Alone. Hopefully we can have some date-type fun.
     
    ZombieSquirrel, Dec 10, 2015
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  14. grumpyolddude

    grumpyolddude Very Tilted

    Location:
    Metro Detroit, Michigan, USA
    Empty nesting makes "date night" a more frequent occurrence. In fact, we have a date tomorrow night. A friend's band is opening for Sponge at a local dive venue.
     
    grumpyolddude, Dec 11, 2015
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  15. POPEYE

    POPEYE Very Tilted

    Location:
    Tulsa
    Dates are normally coupled with events like birthdays, special occasions so on and so on
     
    POPEYE, Dec 11, 2015
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  16. Levite

    Levite Levitical Yet Funky

    Location:
    The Windy City
    Not anywhere fucking near often enough.

    Babysitting is expensive. Both of us have a lot of work. And we're fucking exhausted all the time (two kids three and under).

    I think like six weeks ago we went out for a quick dinner and drink....
     
    Levite, Dec 14, 2015
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  17. Fraeia

    Fraeia Getting Tilted

    Location:
    Newfoundland
    I went out on a date last night... at least I think it was a date... I am so doomed to be single for the rest of my life... *flails and abruptly leaves thread*
     
    Fraeia, Dec 14, 2015
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  18. ZombieSquirrel

    ZombieSquirrel Brrrrrrrains

    Location:
    Oregon by way of "Oh-hi-ya"
    Impromptu date night on Friday. It was nice. Dinner at a restaurant that might be our new favorite and then wine and dessert at our old favorite. I'm looking forward to our weekend date in California this weekend to watch the Bengals play the 49ers.
     
    ZombieSquirrel, Dec 14, 2015
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  19. Charlatan

    Charlatan sous les pavés, la plage

    Location:
    Temasek
    See my post... don't forget to make time for each other. Babies can suck up a lot of your relationship.
     
    Charlatan, Dec 14, 2015
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  20. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    Often enough, I get weirdness.
    So get this...

    A girl I dated only once...just before my month long fling with another, texted me today. SIX months later!!
    She was also a 25 yo professional (there was a trend but not by my own intent) ....so before the date she told me she wanted total honesty because she'd been lied to by her past 2 BFs, who were actually married...
    But after the date, she says she didn't like me because I was TOO honest, she wanted mystery. Can't win...

    And on top of it, I gave out my business card as a joke because I just made them...and she dings me for that too. (and no, I do not give my business cards to dates :rolleyes: )
    YET ironically, she just texted me out of the blue because she found my card...and wanted to see how I was doing.

    It's a weird fuckin' world :confused:

    And no, I'm not going to date her again...you can't win with someone that totally contradicts herself. ...Just surreal.
    I guess I could take it as a strange compliment that she even considered contacting me after so long.

    But frankly, it's this kind of shit that wears on you and limits your dating efforts.
     
    rogue49, Dec 14, 2015
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