Wife's little sister

Hey everyone. I need some advice on how to stop my sexual feelings toward my SIL.
First off my wife and I are 22yrs old have been married for 1year. We have a 2year old son and a girl to be born in 3.5months. My sister in law is 17.5 and very attractive. I started to notice her when she turned 16. My wife has always been on the heavy side with nice tits and although she is naturally beautiful and doesn't need any make-up, her laziness and not caring about looks ever does bother me at times. My sister in law has one sweet rear, good body, and amazing legs, she needs to rely on make-up. She is at the same energetic level as me which is nice because I have someone to play games outside with myself and son. Now I should say that my wife and I moved to the same town as my inlaws just before our first kid was born. Unfortunately we have been here for just over 2 years and have not found any friends so typically we end up visiting my wife's family 5-7 times a week. Because of this I spend a lot of time my her sister. Sometimes I feel that she is flirting but am unsure if she is or just being nice in a sisterly way. She's always commenting on my butt and I notice she's always making eye contact with me. Or at least keeps looking at me because I can't keep my eyes off of her. When we visit we are there for at least an hour and I find in happier when I'm around her. This is before and after feelings before having a kid. My wife is on the same maturately level as me and in my mind, the perfect wife. She stays at home with our kid and makes me dinner everyday, cleans, and we have sex everyday if time allows it. My sister on the other hand is definitely a teen with low self esteem whose mood can change in a second and her world revolves around her phone. My sister in law is very obidient with doing little things for me (baking cookies, making me coffee, grabbing me a drink where as my wife will yell at me for asking. Other things I notice with my sister in law is that she always likes to pass me my son when my family is leaving (or she is leaving) instead of putting him down or passing to my wife. I always like to place my hands over her hands when received my son and it seems like she doesn't let go for bit longer than when passes off to anyone else. In a perfect world I would have both sisters (my wife does like to watch sister wife's lol) but unfortunately it's not and I would never leave my wife or commit adultery. I have tried to talk with my wife about not spending as much time with her family which turned out in her mind that I didn't want my family around them. Then I offered for myself to stay home either with our son or not for her to have a chance to be away from him and get a break. That went even worse, she assume the worse and said I hated her family. I have tried to explain to her that I wanted to spend less time with them not because I hated them but because I felt that we needed to grow as a family and spend time going to parks and hopefully meeting other people our age with kids. She said she is giving up on friends and doesn't want to spend less time away from her parents and sister. I don't think it would be a great idea to tell my wife about my feelings toward her sister but I'm not sure what else to do. We live in a small town in northern Manitoba that has no movie theatre, bowling, or anything fun besides drinking at bars (for people our age) but we haven't been to a bar since our son was born and don't plan to until our kids can stay home by themselves. It's not that we don't want to do anything but we can't afford to travel 3hours to see a movie or even go out to McDonalds. What's the worst possible outcome if I were to tell my wife about my feelings towards her sister or what else could I say that may stop her from forcing me to go with her to visit her family as I want less interaction to stop these feelings. I have found my self almost grabbing her ass and hugging her everytime I leave. I would honestly think my wife should have realized by now but maybe she wants me to be attracted to her sister or thinks we are acting siblingly? (Note: one of her main reasons for me having to go is that she doesn't want to drive, there is one stop sign and not traffic lights and only a 10min drive).

 

Thought about it but her dad recently had an affair in the last year so I don't know how she would react

 

Agree with this. But I would not include anything about you being attracted to her sister.

 

Exactly this....
Honesty is the key. Sometimes honesty hurts, but it's key

 

So it could be either she's flirting with you in which case you talk to your wife and there is a major blow up between them or ...
You are getting a bit desperate because you have kids, remember the days when your wife was hot like her sister and not a mom, want a bit of hot strange tail and are putting some of your own desperation on top of her actions which may be a little inappropriate but not as bad as you are making out.
I'm not one of those guys who do this very often but here's a lecture on what men do.
Men control their dicks and don't let their dicks control them.
Men think about who is counting on them first and their needs second.
Men can say NO when they need to.
Most of all men do not treat woman like meat, especially 17 year girls.
Fuck your wife and think about her sister if you need to but be a man.
Get the hell away from this.

 

What's wrong with plain ol keeping your mouth shut, hands and eyes to yourself. " And this to shall pass."

 

OK, dude, here's the deal. You need to do three things.

First, and foremost, you need to start setting some boundaries with your SIL. Have a private chat with her (but not too far away from other people, just like in the next room or out of earshot or something). Tell her that you are sincerely fond of her, and you think she's very attractive, but it's extremely important to you to be clear that she is your sister-in-law, and you are married to her sister, and that because of that, she needs to behave less flirtatiously with you. You must also make it clear that you apologize to her if you have confused her by passively accepting or responding positively to her flirting, and let her know that it was unfiltered instinct, and was not intentionally done as an act of return flirtation. Explain that you truly wish her the best, but it is critical for you to be honest and open with her, so you can be honest and open with your wife-- her sister-- and not endanger your marriage.

Second, after talking with your SIL, talk to your wife. Tell her that your SIL has been flirting with you, and it has made you uncomfortable. Admit frankly that you find your SIL attractive, but reassure your wife that you have spoken with your SIL, to set boundaries, to make it clear that nothing further will happen; and reassure your wife how important it is to you to be honest with her, and to remain faithful, which is why you've spoken to your SIL and now you're speaking with her.

You have to stick by those things, and reinforce what you say to your SIL if she continues to flirt; and keep speaking honestly with your wife.

But the third and final thing to do, if you continue to be attracted to your SIL, is to sublimate your sexual feelings. In the best of all possible worlds, your wife would be the kind of person who finds your attraction to her sister unobjectionable and innocent enough to help you out with some sexual role playing. However, I would think the greater likelihood is that your wife, while she may be understanding, and perhaps even sympathetic, is unlikely to be quite so...prepared. In which case, divert yourself with masturbation.

I'm not kidding. I have a really high sex drive, and a roving eye. I am also rigorously, unbendably faithful to my wife. One of the primary reasons for my being able to be so is that when a girl really catches my eye, and I find myself thinking of her a lot, I masturbate and fantasize about her. Including my two sisters in law, including a whole mess of my wife's good friends.

Just remember, it's okay to feel sexually attracted to someone you're not married to. As long as you don't act on the attraction with that person. But there's nothing wrong with fantasizing, or jerking off to someone. As long as you're doing so by yourself, or with your wife. But it's far better to act on your fantasies by yourself with your hand than to pretend you don't feel anything, or to act on them with another person. It'll be a release valve, and help you stay faithful. It's never failed me.

 

Rock solid advice ^.

And definitely use paragraphs, please.

 

do what Levite suggests - and sooner rather than later

 

Levite's advice is extremely sensible.

You're better off to NOT fuck her. But if you must fuck her, don't fuck her until she turns 18. If you do it now you lose half your stuff, get to pay child support, and go to jail. If you wait till she's 18 at least you don't go to jail.

But then if you don't fuck her at all you get to keep all your stuff and you don't have to pay child support.

Think it through, dude. You're telling us your SIL is hot and has a great ass and you're afraid you can't control yourself enough to not bang her. You're 22. I'm 55 and I still want to bang hot chicks. It wears off about 3 days after they bury you.

You don't have to bang every girl that flirts with you, and you should learn to keep your dick in your pants unless you're taking a piss or having sex with your wife.

I also think you should tell the wife. Who knows, maybe she'll come back with "You know, I've always fantasized about a 3-way with my sister...."

Nah. That only happens in cheap porn movies...

 

just my luck - my wife only has a tattoo covered brother.

 

I don't want to go there.... but I thought of a really smart-assed reply....

 

Seconded, except that I would say (to the OP), don't fuck her. If she turns 18, and you decide that it's not just that you want to fuck her, but that you have real feelings for her, then you need to consider whether you need to end your marriage and begin a relationship with your (then to be former) SIL. And if you decide you can't live without your SIL, then divorce your wife and only then start fucking her sister.

But under no circumstances should you cheat on your wife with her sister. It's virtually impossible for a marriage to recover from cheating, under the best of circumstances. I do not believe it would be possible at all if the affair was with your SIL. Unless your wife turns out to be infinitely more open-minded and kinky than is humanly likely, that cheat will kill your marriage. And that, in turn, will wreak havoc in the life of your kids.

It's not that I don't sympathize with the horniness. Really, I do. I'd like to nail anything not already nailed down, basically. But you have to channel and sublimate your desires in order to avoid horrific consequences, and also to remain a decent guy. You're not alone: we all have to do it. Some of us more than others. But sooner or later, all of us have to do it.

Totally untrue!

It happens in expensive porn movies as well.

 

I was living vicariously there for a minute...until I read the last sentence. Oh well, a guy can dream. Thanks for elaborating on that... I think....