Sex toy advice please

I would appreciate some input from our connoisseurs.

I would like to buy a sex toy for a lady friend from work.

I know nothing about sex toys.

Here is some background which I hope will help choose a toy:
She is a 40 year old woman leaving an emotionally abusive marriage.
She enjoys sex and orgasms with intercourse but has been having sex about once a month. Now not at all.
She says she does not masturbate and has never given herself an orgasm. Knowing her well I believe this is true.
She can orgasm during sex while riding her husband cowgirl style but not in other positions.
She is a reserved person, so a 20 inch dong in graphic packaging is not going to be welcomed.......

Thank you all.

 

first off, are you sure this is a good idea? i see a million ways this could go badly, despite your best intentions. flowers are always nice. a gift card for a massage or day spa if you want to go more in the "take care of yourself" direction.

if you still think this is a good idea, i would recommend a gift card to a reputable website (adamandeve, babeland, etc...) where she could select something for herself. i think that would be less intimidating than unwrapping a dong from a friend. even then, i would deflect attention from it by slipping it in amongst a more vanilla gift.

finally, forgive me for not really knowing your situation. are you just a concerned friend here, or do you have a larger agenda? either way, my advice remains the same.

 

No larger agenda. I'm happily married and plan to stay that way.
We have a close, long-standing friendship. We're comfortable talking about his kind of stuff together.

I hear what you're saying though.

 

I agree with @weezer. I agree that there a lots of ways this could go wrong, and by choosing for her, you'll have taken her own interest out of the equation when it comes to picking a toy. Part of the fun of acquiring a new sex toy is doing the research to find something that seems intriguing and could work for you. I've been given a toy as a gift before and, honestly, never used it. It was not only because when I saw the toy I thought of that person (who I wasn't attracted to whatsoever), but because I hadn't been personally invested in the research that led to the decision.

A gift card would be a better way to go about this, in my opinion.

Edit: also, I see your note above that you "know nothing about sex toys." You really aren't qualified to pick a toy that is going to work for her, why not let her do it?? You don't know if she would prefer something that would aim for clitoral vs vaginal vs anal stimulation, size preferences, material preferences, intensity needs, etc etc. There are far too many options and features to consider with a sex toy, and there's a good chance your pick will fall short of the mark.

 

I second Oh Joy Sex Toy and the gift card idea.
Bullets and Bunnies are always a good place to start.

 

Thanks everyone.
Good peeps here at TFP.
I can see that what seemed a simple good idea in my head has some warts on it when exposed to the light of day.
I am going to re-think this brilliant idea of mine.

 

Oh now you let me know?

 

It's only awkward if you're not wearing safety goggles.

 

Hey, no mouth breathing in the champagne room.

 

I wouldn't know about giving a facial, I finally for the first time was given the chance, and when i finished it was an empty shoot. Seems the first side effect of the med I am on is no ejaculate. Not only did I not get to give, try explaining that one to the expectant girlfriend.

 

Not seeing a better place to put this I put it here. I have all the sex toys I want but keep looking for something new. One of the places I have bought from and got good products for great prices is aliexpress.
I have bought many other products from them too such as tea, electronics, parts, paintings, pet supplies, and have had no problem using my debit card. Delivery time is long but with free shipping and great prices I no longer use the usual USA sources such as Amazon.

 

I'm intrigued how this story ended, now someone bumped the thread...

 

I listened to the very sound advice above and tabled the idea indefinitely.
Thanks TFP.

 

Let me first start off by saying that there are outside women and there are inside women..some masturbate using clitoral stimulation without being desirous of any penetration..some women like penetration and clitoral stimulation...have you ever watched her masturbate?..this could provide you with clues as to what she would like....buy a wand-like vibrator and a multi-use dildo shaped vibrator..this way she can experiment with both..try to find an adult store run by women. they can be a wealth of information on where to start...