Sex-Starved Marriage

I have been in marriage for 5 years and last time my husband and I had sex was over 2 years ago and I'm not happy about it. We usually do it twice or thrice a month. I am wondering why he's not asking for it or maybe he is just busy doing his work but gosh 2 years! And I don't know if he noticed it or what. He's working in his office for 6 days and 1 day in our house he is just so busy facing his laptop and touching his papers and his office desk. I don't even know if he's aware if he's married! Next month we will celebrate our 6th wedding anniversary and I want it to be special and unforgettable so I'd decided to take our sex life into the next level. I searched for something that can spice up our intimacy time and luckily a friend of mine told me to look for this online store they're offering something that can make our sex life more exciting. I bought the some DVDs and sex toys for couples and some of them are even 50 percent off and for free shipping. I can't wait for it to arrive! Maybe after watching this he will love to be in our room with me rather than to be in his office with his laptop. And I hope this will save me for being a total sexless wife.

Any advice? Please let me know, I really need it. I want to get the intimacy back in our relationship. Thank you in advance

 

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there's always more to a story. and this one has gaps I could drive my truck through.

 

Deliberately.

 

My suggestion would be not to count on toys or DVDs at this point.
They would be fine as an add on if it hadn't been two years without.
As BG pointed out stress is a major issue.

I think getting him out of the house might make a big difference.
Get him out of the office.
Take a long weekend, rent a hotel room with a hot tub and mirrors on the ceiling.
Maybe get some leather straps and a tie yourself to the bed.
Let him have his way with you any time, any where.
Bring lots of lube, panties that can be torn off, hell don't wear clothes from an entire day.
Spend time getting to know each others bodies again.
Offer to do things you didn't ordinarily do, anal, wheelbarrow, deep throat, whatever.

After that he might want to make it a regular thing.

 

Somehow I don't think porn and sex toys is the answer to this one. Not that they don't have their uses, mind. But to me, this sounds like a serious lack of communication and sensitivity to one another. I would highly, highly recommend that you and your husband seek out couples counseling. Nobody doesn't have sex for two years by accident. You guys need to be be communicating.

 

The more direct approach is needed here....push the man back from what ever is holding his attention and just go down town....bet that"ll get things started.......all though thats NEVER worked on me

 

This was totally a plug for Adam and eve's website. Suckahs.

 

yeah, but... honestly Street Pattern.. skipping the parts I want to read????

 

I'm not embarrassed to say that opening up communication about erotic matters was very significant.

 

Oooooh. Intimacy time.

 

I noticed that @SoSofia started this thread and hasn"t been back

 

Which you aided by mentioning the site being plugged .