Withholding Sex. Good Strategy?

When I read the Headline, Sex strike brings peace to Filipino Village, my mind went straight to one of my favorite plays, Lysistrata. I always wondered if it could actually work.

Be honest, have you ever withheld sex to try and get what you wanted?

 

Has happened to me, doesn't work, I just go masturbate and be over and done with it. I don't like it, because I am a very sexual person in a relationship, so withholding it does create some problems....

 

Fully agreed.

 

There's better ways to end a relationship but withholding sex will certainly suffice.

 

No. This is terrible behaviour. Maybe you could say 'talk' to the other person. I know it sounds a little left field...

 

Plan9 made a comment on the old board about how sad it was that sex has become a weaponized commodity. I tend to agree with him.

 

So, if this is bad then turning it around and using sex to get what you want is what?

It happens all the time, much more frequently than withholding sex, I would think. Is there a difference?

 

Using sex as a coercive means to an end is reprehensible.

 

Yes, there's a difference. When using sex to get what you want, everyone gets laid. When withholding sex, everyone ends up screwed.

 

I am going with no - I have forgotten what sex even is now and not for the witholding as device to get you want reason - and after awhile you just get used to it sadly.

 

If you are with someone where you have to use such drastic measures to get what you want... you probably shouldn't be in that relationship. It's much better to learn to talk things through and to compromise.

Withholding sex isn't much different from using violence to get what you want. It's coercive behaviour.

 

um. did anyone actually read the article? It's not about withholding sex to get that spare bathroom refurbished.

 

well, I don't believe in withholding sex to get something within a relationship.
but if it works the way purported in the article? on more than one occasion?
hell yez. i would definitely withhold pussy to end a war. and you can quote me on that.

 

I have now. I was originally just replying to the question posed in the OP... and in that case, I was thinking it was a domestic, one-to-one kind of negotiation.

The article is a whole other scenario, and one that I would support.

 

Still have not have read the article but it is clear enough what it is about and I would heartily agree with the women in this situation. There was a movie out a few years that had the same idea about using that method to stop a gang war.

 

Couldn't have put it better myself. You can do it. It's just not a good idea if you want to have a healthy relationship.