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Online Boyfriend

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by Pookybear777, May 16, 2014.

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  1. Pookybear777

    Pookybear777 New Member

    10, almost 11, months ago I met this guy on the website Omegle and my intentions were to make people laugh and he was the only one who didn't laugh, so this intrigued me. I started to text him and I started to like him and I got to the point where I talked to him 24/7 and I couldn't stop. I felt like I was addicted to him and I guess I am if you refer to the definition of the word, but the problem is he lives in Canada and I live in the U.S and at first it wasn't really a biiig thing but lately it has become one. He is also a lot older than me. I have no idea what to do about him. he makes me want to push him off of a cliff but then run to the bottom to catch him, he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I really love him. The kind of love that makes you want to cry every time you look at them because you can't believe they love you back. I hate the distance and I'm not sure how long we can last with it, but we are trying the best we can but we need to keep it up for two years because that is when he is coming and I just have no idea what to do. He is everything I have ever wanted but the wait is killing me. What should I do? Does any one else have a situation like this?
     
    Pookybear777, May 16, 2014
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  2. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    Been there, done that.
    Let me tell you about the longest cross-country drive of my life back home... Nah, it will bore you.

    Just take it a day at a time, don't make too many rash choices.

    Here's the real question...is he really coming to you, as much as you're coming to him??
    It has to go both ways.
     
    rogue49, May 16, 2014
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  3. redravin

    redravin Cynical Optimist Donor

    Location:
    North
    Been there as well.

    Hang on, if it's meant to be - it will be.

    Long hours on the phone are poor replacement I understand but when you do get together you are going to know each other better than most couples who have been dating for years.
     
    redravin, May 16, 2014
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  4. Borla

    Borla Moderator Staff Member

    How much time have you been able to spend together in person?
     
    Borla, May 16, 2014
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  5. Pookybear777

    Pookybear777 New Member

    No time. We have never met each other in person.
     
    Pookybear777, May 16, 2014
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  6. RedSneaker

    RedSneaker Very Tilted

    May I ask your age difference?
     
    RedSneaker, May 16, 2014
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  7. Dionysus

    Dionysus New Member

    Have you video chatted? If not, be cautious, he might be a catfish. Even if you have he could be married and fullfilling a void in his life by having this online relationship with you. Trust your instincts, if something seems off it probably is.
     
    Dionysus, May 17, 2014
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  8. Pookybear777

    Pookybear777 New Member

    9 years. And yes we sleep together most every night on FaceTime and once we facetimed for a record of 27 hours.
     
    Pookybear777, May 17, 2014
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  9. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect

    Location:
    At work..
    the only advice i can give you is just to be cautious. dont let your emotions get the best of you. just make sure he is who he says he is before you jump in with both feet. good luck though
     
    ralphie250, May 17, 2014
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  10. Borla

    Borla Moderator Staff Member

    Depending on locations, a flight from most Canadian cities to most US cities can be found for a few/several hundred bucks. What is preventing that from happening before two years?

    For basically the cost of upgrading to the next new Apple product for your FaceTime you could meet in real time.

    Any time I hear of these very long, allegedly maddeningly in love, cases of such things it makes me wonder how sincere the person on the other end is. Especially when the time periods are counted in years, and the cost of actually meeting is in the 'few hundred bucks' range. Not saying that is a frivolous amount of money for everyone, but in a day and age where we pay $50-100+/month for TV service, high speed internet, cell/data service, and eat out (even if just fast food) 5-20x/wk, I always wonder why a few corners couldn't be cut to meet in person. My gut usually tells me that even if financial reasons are the ones given, they are the cop out, not the reality.
     
    Borla, May 17, 2014
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  11. Remixer

    Remixer Middle Eastern Doofus

    Location:
    Frankfurt, Germany
    Very much agreed with Borla.
     
    Remixer, May 17, 2014
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  12. Pookybear777

    Pookybear777 New Member

    It's not money that's the problem it's his job. He doesn't have anymore vacation days.
     
    Pookybear777, May 17, 2014
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  13. Borla

    Borla Moderator Staff Member

    For two years?

    What about a long weekend over a holiday? IIRC Canada does lots of those in the summer.
     
    Borla, May 17, 2014
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  14. Herculite

    Herculite Very Tilted

    Something about this thread just has a familiar ring to it.
     
    Herculite, May 17, 2014
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  15. Street Pattern

    Street Pattern Very Tilted

    Location:
    The American Midwest
    I have known others (not from TFP) who had relationships that started this way.

    Some worked well in person; others did not.

    I suspect this kind of circumstance will seem less and less remarkable over time.
     
    Street Pattern, May 17, 2014
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  16. RedSneaker

    RedSneaker Very Tilted

    Most people don't work 7 days a week, every week for two years - what is his job?

    What did he do on his last vacation days? Seems strange he didn't spend them coming to meet you.
     
    RedSneaker, May 17, 2014
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  17. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect

    Location:
    At work..
    starting to sound like that tv show catfish
     
    ralphie250, May 17, 2014
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  18. Daniel_

    Daniel_ The devil made me do it...

    Location:
    The United Kingdom, naturally
    Two mentions of catfish. Help a european, whats the deal?
     
    Daniel_, May 17, 2014
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  19. redravin

    redravin Cynical Optimist Donor

    Location:
    North

    It's a net term for sucking someone into a romantic relationship online and not being the that person at all.
    Sometimes even being the opposite sex.
    There was a football player who was a famous example of it.

    Urban Dictionary: catfish
     
    redravin, May 17, 2014
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  20. Fremen

    Fremen Allright, who stole my mustache?

    Location:
    E. Texas
    It's also a low rent tv show on the *music* channel, MTV.
     
    Fremen, May 17, 2014
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