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Discuss sheets.

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by genuinemommy, May 10, 2014.

  1. genuinemommy

    genuinemommy Moderator Staff Member

    Let's talk sheets.
    Here are some questions to guide the discussion.

    What are your favorites?
    Brands?
    Thread counts?
    Materials?
    Size?
    Color?
    Do you prefer sleeping in something different than what you use for sexy-time?
    Are your preferences seasonal?
    How many sets vs beds do you have in your home?
    How often do you change your sheets? Do you have a set schedule?
    Perfumed soap or not? Starched or unstarched?
    Pillows in shams or cases?
    Does your partner have different preferences? How do you reconcile the differences?

    _---------rationale for thread----------
    We need new sheets. Years of ravenous bunny chewing and neglect has rendered all but 2 sheets in this home threadbare. I keep ignoring our sheet issue but yesterday I had enough. I am ready to invest in good sheets. I have no idea where to start.

    Hubby loves soft bottom sheets and no top sheet, unless it's hot then he wants to replace blanket with sheet. He unintentionally rapes pillows as he sleeps, somehow they lose their cases. He does not easily remove covers if they are sham-style (open in back) or zippered.
    I like both top and bottom sheets. I like them to be clean every day, if possible. I like them to be firm and starched and thick or thin and soft. I detest flannel. It feels gross. I love bamboo or linen.

    We reconcile our differences with a series of compromises. It seems to work. We have 2,top sheets so he can throw his off and I still have mine. His pillows have either 2 cases or one sham or one zippered case. We used to not have his/hers pillows and just shared but it became a nuisance and we developed preferences for different pillows. I like very full feather pillows and he likes soft squishy or lumpy polyester. We both love our 3-season alternative down comforter. I prefer white sheets so they can be bleached.

    Our bed is not usually a battleground. What about yours?
     
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  2. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    Got a Costco membership? Their 400 thread count Charisma sheet set is silky soft and durable. My husband rolls around a lot to the point he will wear a hole through the bottom sheet. I gave up trying to find a "good deal" on sheets at places like TJ Maxx after going through a sheet set a year, so knowing Costco had a good return policy, I bought the Charisma sheets. They've lasted two years without any visible thinning where he sleeps, which is impressive. We've tried modal sheets, but the modal wore out within a matter of months. We use a duvet with our comforter as neither of us like a top sheet. We alternate between using the pillowcases that came with the sheet set or our nostalgic pillowcases from childhood. I have a Care Bear pillowcase and he has a Mickey Mouse Rescue Squad pillowcase.

    We used to sleep with separate blankets, but that's gone away with time. Now we're quite used to sharing.
     
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  3. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & be quiet.

    Location:
    Large City, TX
    Freshly washed & dried sheets + freshly washed & dried naked people = nice.

    Sorry, I have nothing better to add to this thread. Feel free to make a thread count joke; I can't come up with one worthy of even my low standards.
     
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  4. Japchae

    Japchae Very Tilted

    My ultimate favorite is supima cotton, but they're almost impossible to find any more. I hate higher thread count sheets or "sateen" because they're hot. I bought a set of Egyptian Cotton sheets off nomorerack and I love them, but they pill like crazy at my feet still. I cannot sleep with anything in the bed that feels remotely like sand.
    Here, I use top and bottom sheets, end tucked in, and a comforter. I can't sleep with my feet exposed. Childhood trauma from reading "It".
    At home, the hubs likes his side untucked so his feet can be out and we use a thin coverlet. I usually have an extra blanket tossed on top.

    We have two sets of sheets that have lasted almost 10 years with weekly washing, rotating. Both are supima cotton and still in pretty decent shape. We both use two pillows with regular pillowcases, and we despise shams... Too rough on the face.

    I love Sunday nights here, sliding into still-warm sheets with no fuzzies after a nice hot shower with a cool burst at the end.
     
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  5. CinnamonGirl

    CinnamonGirl The Cheat is GROUNDED!

    I think the sheets we're currently using are 350 count. I am not a fan of the "satiny" type sheets. We use cotton in the summer (maybe a cotton blend? I'll have to check when I get home) and flannel sheets in the winter.

    Eden and I both move around a lot, and we both tend to "cocoon" in the blankets. After a couple nights of stealing the blankets from each other pretty much constantly, we decided separate stuff was better. (we do have one large comforter, but it hardly ever gets used...we each have a sheet and a heavier blanket. And like, three or four pillows each.)

    I try to wash the sheets every weekend, or every other weekend depending on time constraints. Unscented detergent (All Free & Clear), and either unscented fabric softener OR this Clorox bleach-free stuff that smells completely awesome. No starch, and I usually use extra softener...I like soft sheets :)

    I really wish we had a clothesline...sun-dried sheets are the best.


    Oh--colors. I like blues and greens, Eden likes red and black. We try to stay away from mostly white sheets, since the dogs sleep with us, although the current set is white with a green ivy pattern. The flannel sheets have a blue snowflake pattern, and we also have a set of plain blue cotton.
     
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  6. genuinemommy

    genuinemommy Moderator Staff Member

    So many great thoughts on sheets! Thanks everyone who took time to respond. I'm getting excited about sheet shopping now.
     
  7. Street Pattern

    Street Pattern Very Tilted

    Indeed.

    I like patterned sheets with lines running the long way, so that you don't have to wonder which way to orient them when you make the bed. However, most of our sheets have no pattern.

    My wife and I both prefer to sleep between bottom and top sheets.

    Sheets that get torn or have holes are no longer usable.

    Pillows with pillow sham covers are not for sleeping on.

    Memory foam is great stuff. We have a layer of it on top of our mattress (below the bottom sheet).
     
  8. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & be quiet.

    Location:
    Large City, TX
    You should hear some of the arguments my wife & I have when making the bed.
    She gets the argument going with a really stupid & rhetorical 'question,' "Do you want to help me make the bed?"
    I'm tempted to reply, "Only if it doesn't involve micrometers." No man on Earth "wants" to help his nitpicky wife/SO/GF make the bed.
    "No," she says, "you have turn it the other way so that when the sheet is folded down the pattern is right."
    "It doesn't fucking matter which way the fucking pattern goes," I reply. "You're the only person who would notice."
    "It's important, it has to look right."
    "It isn't, and it doesn't."
     
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  9. RedSneaker

    RedSneaker Very Tilted

    My favorite sheets were my mom and dads sheets before they divorced. So they're from the '70s. Bill Blass brand. One is Olive Green. One is Khaki and Chocolate design. They're the softest best sheets I've ever slept on. Sadly, they're starting to fall apart.

    I use Downy Infusions Orchid Allure when I wash them (and everything) They smell so great right after they come out of the dryer.

    No set sexy time sheets.

    I have shams for making the bed but sleep with cases.

    I don't care for top sheets much. I'm far too restless and get tangled up too easy.

    No flannel sheets ever. I very much enjoy the coolness when you first jump in bed.
     
  10. Charlatan

    Charlatan sous les pavés, la plage

    Location:
    Temasek
    My wife is sheet obsessed. I will ask her as I have no clue.

    In Singapore, I rarely even use sheets anymore.
     
  11. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    The Charisma sheets finally bit it after three years. Pretty good, I'd say. There were some tiny holes that turned into tears as the sheet began to thin--this time, it was actually on my side of the bed! GASP.
     
  12. Levite

    Levite Levitical Yet Funky

    Location:
    The Windy City
    Don't have a favorite brand or anything, but Mrs. Levite has successfully converted me to the value of cotton sheets with absurdly high thread counts. Our sets range from 500-600 thread count to 800-1000 thread count. They are expensive as fuck, but hella worth it. We have a really good bed, plus a plushy mattress pad, so with ridiculously high thread count sheets, it's like sleeping on a fucking cloud. It is awesome.

    We are both somewhat allergic and sensitive to perfumes, so we wash our sheets with scent-free hypoallergenic detergent.

    We also have completely different sets of linen other than bottom sheet: we each sleep with our own top sheet and blanket(s). In part this because we prefer very different ways of sleeping: she's a neat sleeper, likes the top sheet and blankets tucked in, bed carefully made; I like the sheet and blanket loose, because I sort of twist it and tuck it around me, leaving a foot exposed even in winter, and in summer more. That's the other part: we run in completely different temperature zones. She is almost always cold, and even in summer sleeps with more than one blanket-- in winter, she piles them on. Whereas I always run hot, and use just a top sheet and one blanket during winter, early spring, and late fall, and only the top sheet the rest of the year.

    We also differ with pillows: she sleeps with one or two fairly flat pillows. I sleep with two to three fat pillows plus a husband pillow, as I like to sleep at an angle.
     
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  13. Stan

    Stan Resident Dumbass

    Location:
    Colorado
    I'm told that all of our sheets come from LL Bean and that those are the only ones that will do. I just sleep on them.

    Plain colored, no pattern, bottom sheets with his and hers down comforters, because we can't agree on a pattern and she's a blanket hog.
     
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  14. Rebel CR

    Rebel CR Vertical

    Location:
    Cell Number 99
    any sheets over 500 thread count are the only sheets i buy now and never, ever, again, will i buy satin sleeps, much less sleep in them for more than one night
     
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  15. Japchae

    Japchae Very Tilted

    We are freaking addicted to our new LL Bean sheets... Simple cotton sheets. They're percale and breathe like nothing I've ever slept in/on ever. Hubs loves them, too, which is incredibly rare--for us to agree on temperature support in sheets. He's usually too hot, I'm too cold. These balance you out perfectly based on your top layers. Worth every penny.
     
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  16. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

  17. OtherSyde

    OtherSyde Slightly Tilted

    Location:
    San Diego, CA
    This. Those are the exact sheets I bought. Two sets - one in light tan color, and one in neutral slate grey, so I can switch them out once a week and only have to launder sheets once every 2 weeks. Super soft and comfy.