Tinder....

Well, most online dating is a ongoing experiment...if you're trying, you're tweaking it until you start getting the results you want.
Not lying...but putting in different aspects, media and stories of yourself that others end up responding to.
Most people have built quite a complex background that you don't see all at once...plus how you say things makes a difference.

I don't know if I'd use this app...I try to keep my Facebook away from other things, it is too pervasive...and likely to reveal things.
I like my privacy in my dating life, too many people know my Facebook page, including business associates.

I typically use my nickname I have here in dating profiles...then use my real name in emails.
Too many people can get into your business.

I'd have to see how the Tinder app works...how its daily dynamics work, see if there is any impact, before I'd trust it.
But there are so many different things that work and don't work in the dating world...I'd be willing to try it if it was safe, privacy wise.

But I'd keep on experimenting with your resources.
Try to show different sides of your life, you doing hobbies...you dressed up in a suit...think of it as a portfolio like you were a model or actor.
Any summary...try to keep a more positive spin on anything.
Even if you want to be "real" and honest, reality is people respond more to positives...think of it as you working with a client.
Again, not lying or exaggerating...just positive. They'll get to know the real you when meet...good & bad.

Let's face it, it's an advertisement of you to get people in your store.
Now, you want to draw a certain clientèle, this is true...but once they meet you, "the product"...they can review the detailed specs.
Hopefully they'll buy...or perhaps "lease" if not a full purchase. heh.

There's no true formula...what works one time, doesn't work another.
Also there's no fixed time period for results...personally, I've found Fall & Winter a unlikely time for results,
and then Spring & Summer all of a sudden...I'm juggling dates (which I hate) It's different for everyone.
Keep trying, keep tweaking.
No matter what apps or sites you use.

I'll look into Tinder, see if it's right for me. Thanks.

 

Well, at least you're getting better responses than me on OKC, @MSD

But as to my point above about tweaking...and your friends' suggestion about pics, @streak_56
I've found that my results on searches for me in a 24 hour period have gone up, from 60 avg to 300 avg...
Just from one pic change.
I had one of me inside, an upper body shot, clothed to go to a concert, grinning like a Cheshire cat.
vs.
One that was a close head shot outside, different angle, sunglasses and a colorful T-shirt.

Both, not bad...not ugly.
But just from switching from the first shot to the 2nd as my primary profile...my counts went down 300 to 60 avg per 24
I noticed this from the corner of my eye...thought curiously about the change.
A week later, I switched it back to the first.
Numbers immediately went back up to 300 avg/24 hr within a day.

Who knew???

So it really doesn't matter what app...it's the "formula" for yourself, that seems to work.
Some apps work, some don't...some pics work, some don't...some words work, some don't
You've just got to tweak it like a resume.
Trial & error...whatever gets you better results.

Kind of unromantic that it's like this...but it makes sense.
You'd hope just a simple, hey hi there, would work.
But nothing is ever simple.
(Hell, I just read even the Beatles went through their own trials...no one gets away with it)

 

Actually, as much as it pains me to say it...I find that being "real" on online dating summaries (which I love to do), decreases your results.
People want ever so slightly colored pablum.

It might be honest and non-boring to some...but to the masses, it almost gets the reverse result.

Probably why I'm not getting results like I want, it's winter, I'm 46 and I'm mentioning science and opinion in my blurbs.

I was reading an article the other day (on a main news site, I don't look for this shit), that says key words get people's replies more.
And certain ones keep them away, in turn. (I think "surfing" or anything action oriented works, they said)

Shh...nothing threatening or loud...you might scare the deer.

 

In what universe are you only a 5 out of 10? You're really hot!

 

Well...they'll fuck down...
But your tap-dancing and shtick banter better be on top of their game.


BTW, this is actually true even if you're online dating "stats" are off the board.
You better be able to come up with a good opening line...and be willing to put it down.
Because they rarely come knocking to you. (at least from a hetro single male perspective)

It's a crapshoot...no one should beat themselves up.