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To share, or not to share...that is the question.

Discussion in 'General Discussions' started by becauseican6872, Apr 11, 2014.

  1. BECAUSEICAN6872

    becauseican6872 Vertical

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    I can only tell you my thoughts, and would really like to hear others honest opinion of sharing. For me and only me...in my head of what I know I am a slave. I never want another man to touch me. I have tried this before, and in my heart my belief is a man really does not want to watch another man fuck his partner if he really loves her. This is just my thoughts based on issues, or secret trials in my brain and what I believe. I will not change this in my head and is a stead fast idea. It's not negotiable for me is what I am trying to say.

    I really believe that men can have sex and it means nothing. I think I can call a hooker have her blow my man with me, and my man just thinks of it as an experience and it was hot. I on the other hand I am open to the idea, but I don't know. In my beliefs as a woman , I do not think its possible for two high functioning adults...type A , what I call hunters...to be with one person. I know this in my rationale brain.

    I tried this with my husband and hated it because it was a swinger thing of people trading partners, and women to me had a dead look in their eye. I also didn't want to be with another man, and it hurt me deeply and was a huge issue in our marriage.

    I am curious how people feel about it, and I read subs who will be traded and have a train run on them, and that turns them on...nothing wrong with it, if that is what they want. I know men can really separate sex and love, and I am sure women can as well. I do not know my feeling on it. I don't think I would deny my man getting a blow job from two women, one being me....I just had such a bad experience with it and was not emotionally evolved enough to have had it pushed on me.

    In my being no man can touch me other than my master, for me. I can't imagine licking a pussy...I am a guys kind of girl...but I would like to hear others thoughts on it. I do not really have a stance and would like to learn from you.
     
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  2. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

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    This sounds familiar for some reason...
     
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  3. BECAUSEICAN6872

    becauseican6872 Vertical

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    I am not your ex wife, promise you
     
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  4. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & be quiet.

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    Becauseican, I think that rogue is suggesting that your comments might have been better as an additional post to an existing thread rather than a new thread.

    Not that rogue isn't perfectly capable of speaking his own thoughts ;).

    It's confusing to follow two threads that are basically identical, especially when someone is sharing their thoughts in both threads.
     
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  5. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

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    Me??? I never say a word.
    But I will say this, I wouldn't imply at all BIC would be like my ex-wife...because she was ANYTHING but a slave.
    Selfish, willful, a hand-full...yes...but hell, she'd dive off a building just to spite you and make a point.
    Then again, you wouldn't know that, would you?

    However I said, "familiar" because it reminds me of someone I met around these parts in the recent past...
    But nevermind me, I've said enough. :)
     
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  6. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & be quiet.

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    Tease, tease, tease.
     
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  7. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & be quiet.

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    FTR, in the above /\ I'm joshing Rogue.
     
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  8. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    You sure?
     
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  9. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & be quiet.

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    Please tell me that joshing doesn't have some sexual meaning. It wouldn't be the first time I've used an word or expression that I didn't know was inappropriate.

    And I see your point.
     
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  10. Herculite

    Herculite Very Tilted

    Quit being such a meanie!
     
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  11. Street Pattern

    Street Pattern Very Tilted

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  12. Baraka_Guru

    Baraka_Guru Möderätor Staff Member

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    Heh, heh, you just go on believing that.

    I'm pretty sure the "it was just sex" excuse was outlined in the concept of the Noble Lie in Plato's Republic.

    There is a lot going on in here. How to unpack it?

    I'll be brief.

    First, you seem to imply that type-A personalities are "high functioning" while type-Bs are not. (Correct me if I'm wrong.) While I will give you the fact that many type-As are the "hunter" type, to suggest that type-Bs are somehow either a) satisfied with not getting what they want, or b) satisfied with just one sex partner is rather silly. There is nothing in the personality to suggest this is or must be the case. The one thing about type-Bs (I'm what you could call a "Beta male") is that they're misinterpreted and underestimated. In short: We're crafty sexual opportunists.

    But back to type-As: Wanting more than one sex partner in and of itself suggests that there is a component to sex that isn't "meaningless," i.e., sex cannot "mean nothing." If an "Alpha male" cannot function properly (cannot be "high functioning") with one sex partner, surely sex is something more than "nothing."

    What are you saying, exactly?

    As for me, I think it's a dangerous idea to introduce additional sexual partners to a relationship with the idea that it will add a "hot" component that is essentially "meaningless."

    A prostitute that offers oral sex as a service isn't quite the same thing as a Fleshlight.

    Finally, you suggest to know something in your "rational brain," but you are uncertain about whether to let another woman (a professional, mind you) give your man a blow job. Why are you unsure of yourself if you're open to the idea? If you truly believe type-As cannot be satisfied with one person, have at it!

    It's not that easy though, is it?

    Is this a decision based on reason, or is there an emotional component you're not addressing?
     
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  13. BECAUSEICAN6872

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    I am completely unsure of it. Everything in your post is correct. I have not developed , or have not accepted this part , and only brought it up because I would like to understand it. I am not comfortable with this notion, but I also understand type A people or hunters as I call it.
    I am not familiar of type B or would have not knowledge of it.
    I try to think of the future. I feel that it is difficult for two people who are predators really, not in a bad light, but I have seen studies that serial killers have a lot of the same things that light their brain , and Type A white collar professionals.
    No, I have not killed animals or anyone. I have a need though for business and closing deals, and I have a need to be loved in a unusual way for normal people. I am sharing, and I really have an issue with sharing my man. For me
    it is off limits, and I do not want a man to touch me other that my master. I also, at the same time would not want to deny my husband of a fantasy he had of two women sucking on his cock. Would I say no, and then have him cheat on me? I just want honest communication and I know it's years away, but it's very very hard for me to understand sharing. I really don't have a place for it when I am so against it for me. Can a man love you and fuck another woman in front of you? Can any type A person or hunter ever be faithful?
     
    becauseican6872, Apr 12, 2014
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