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is sexual addiction a myth or real?

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by cheri95, Apr 2, 2014.

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  1. Baraka_Guru

    Baraka_Guru Möderätor Staff Member

    Location:
    Toronto
    So you were fine except when you weren't?

    Alcoholism runs in my family, so I generally avoid the stuff.
     
    Baraka_Guru, Apr 4, 2014
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  2. Herculite

    Herculite Very Tilted

    I once flunked an exam in college because I was invited to a dance by a woman and I was that hard up at the time. I then lied about why I slept through it, got to take it later that afternoon, and still flunked it.

    Typical addict behavior but I was most definitely not a sex addict, I was sex starved. I think for some behaviors "addict" is often used where it doesn't fit. I'm sure there might be TRUE sex addicts out there, but much of what I have seen over the years seemed to equate a strong sex drive with being an addict.
     
    Herculite, Apr 4, 2014
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  3. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    But you're so cute when you drink!

    I understand, though. I have similar issues, so it's something I watch pretty closely.
     
    snowy, Apr 4, 2014
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  4. Japchae

    Japchae Very Tilted


    If you would like to get technical, addiction is a psychiatric illness, tolerance is the medical side of things.
    They've removed "addiction" from the DSM because it's been too over (and incorrectly) used.
    Addiction consists of psychological reliance on or craving for something that one requires in order to function normally, in layman's terms.
    Tolerance occurs when the body gets used to something and requires it to function normally (e.g., caffeine, substances).

    Addiction becomes a problem when the "thing" that is craved is used more than than is needed to function normally, like increased gambling to get that RUSH. But your physical body doesn't need it. Your psychological self does, and your brain chemicals are wonky from relying on on the "thing" to get your brain chemicals going. So, technically, sexual addiction could be real, but the DSM is not including it as of yet because there is no set defining criteria that is consistent across individuals. However, other others are using it as an excuse for indiscriminate sex or cheating, which is like blaming an "illness" rather than accepting personal responsibility.

    /psychologist $0.02
     
    Japchae, Apr 4, 2014
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  5. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & be quiet.

    Location:
    Large City, TX
    Read a couple my blogs, if you haven't already. I could go without drinking for several days when need be, such as visiting & staying with my parents, but I always made up for it.

    Avoiding it sounds like a wise decision. I wish that I learned that 35 years ago.
     
    Chris Noyb, Apr 4, 2014
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  6. Baraka_Guru

    Baraka_Guru Möderätor Staff Member

    Location:
    Toronto
    I had meant to, but it's a sensitive topic for me. (I commend you on your courage to write about it.)

    Alcoholism is the main reason why I'm virtually estranged from my father.

    I also know I have an addictive personality and some psychological issues. Between food, caffeine, electronics, etc., I find those far less damaging than the effects of something like alcohol abuse.
     
    Baraka_Guru, Apr 4, 2014
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  7. Daniel_

    Daniel_ The devil made me do it...

    Location:
    The United Kingdom, naturally
    I would, but it's messy and she makes me clean up...
     
    Daniel_, Apr 5, 2014
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  8. Street Pattern

    Street Pattern Very Tilted

    Location:
    The American Midwest
    Yes. To be an addict, you need ready access to whatever-it-is. And presumably for a sex addict, you'd need a constant stream of "suppliers". That's plausible for a woman, but very few men are so persuasive.
     
    Street Pattern, Apr 5, 2014
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  9. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & be quiet.

    Location:
    Large City, TX
    I thought that chronic, as in near obsessive and/or obsessive, masturbation was one of the signs of sex addiction.
     
    Chris Noyb, Apr 5, 2014
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  10. Daniel_

    Daniel_ The devil made me do it...

    Location:
    The United Kingdom, naturally
    Oh, crap.
     
    Daniel_, Apr 5, 2014
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  11. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    Now you're really going to need to clean up. I'll fetch a towel.
     
    snowy, Apr 5, 2014
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  12. Daniel_

    Daniel_ The devil made me do it...

    Location:
    The United Kingdom, naturally
    Urgh.

    Not actual crap!
     
    Daniel_, Apr 5, 2014
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  13. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    I'm sure there are varying levels of sexual addiction...and it occurs sometimes at varying times...with varying intensity.
    As with anything human...it's likely not an either/or, on/off, yes or no thing.

    Sometimes I think I'm a sexual addict but not being a sexual addict.
    If that makes sense.

    Kind of like you can get drunk and do stupid things but not be an actual alcoholic.

    And the threshold or symptoms of alcoholism are seeming to me fairly low.
    So does that mean from a "scientific" perspective...sexual addiction is also fairly low???
    Neither of which I agree with fully,
    but I understand how certain things could be destructive or unproductive in certain situations.

    But another part of me says... I'd like to encourage sexual explorations and sating those needs,
    because it's been repressed for so long by society and judgmental people.
    AND people are not always fully comfortable with themselves to explore.
    Why not enjoy yourself???
    (besides, I WANT more people to want sex, that means more for me... :cool:)

    So I take it like alcohol...enjoy it, don't avoid it, have fun with the buzz.
    But be aware, be responsible...and understand there's a point where it is too much.
    There is a balance.

    But it is SO easy to go overboard...because your body sometimes doesn't just say you want it...but you NEED it.
    And unlike liquor...you can't just go into a store/bar and buy it. (at least in America...legally)
    That...and you want to not regret the night with a "hangover" (aka Coyote Ugly)

    Dammit, who set up this system??? :confused:
    But also, thank you for setting up this "resource", the liquor is delicious. ;)
     
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    rogue49, Apr 5, 2014
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  14. NudeAutoMall

    NudeAutoMall New Member

    Location:
    Las Vegas
    I think the real question should be if it is bad or good. If it makes you miss work that is good, as society is leveraged against the working class which is a factor in depression; whereas sex is a positive. Besides, if we all just lay around fucking, the rich just might have to start working for a living.
     
    NudeAutoMall, Apr 30, 2014
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