is sexual addiction a myth or real?

@rouge49 ~I'm thinking this is not good. I'm thinking this type of intervention with a new member is better left to the TFP staff.

I am a relatively new member. I would estimate that 99% of my contributions have been in the sexually themed threads. So what if I don't pay much attention to the other forums? I am finding TFP to be a pretty tame place compared to other places I frequent. What's wrong with spicing this place up a little? What is Tilted Life and Sexuality for if not for providing enlightenment and a little entertainment with open discussions on sexuality? Do we need to self censor here because ...Here comes de Judge?

 

No. At least, I don't.

 

Oh, then maybe it has something to do with age or gender.

 

Really? I have been flaunting my age, gender, and inexperience all along!

 

Deb, I've been around here a long, long time. I used to be an admin, so I've seen the worst that TFP can be up close and personal. While I'm no longer on staff (by my own choice), this is not my first rodeo. Things that look too good to be true usually are. Yes, I'm jaded. Yes, I'm making a judgment. But that's allowed. None of us is under any sort of burden to believe anyone else. You are, for instance, allowed to have the opinion that I am completely full of shit at all times (and you'd be mostly right - except for the times that you're not). So long as you post within the rules and are respectful, have at it.

@rogue49 finds it difficult to believe that there's a 19 year-old blonde Australian girl with an older boyfriend that's posting here asking exclusively sexual questions and describes her emotions in great detail. Personally, I find it as difficult to believe as he does, but he's asked respectfully and laid out his reasons. Now she's not under any obligation to ever even acknowledge it and the staff won't force her to answer any questions unless they have good reason to believe that something more nefarious is going on - I've seen no sign of that, but it's not impossible.

There's nothing wrong with exclusively posting in one area of the board. We have 100 members or more that do exactly that, and we(the community) value them all. But occasionally questions need to be asked.

 

My wife used to be a mod on the board back in the day.
She was super protective of the ladies and g-d forbid any man disrespect any one of them.
I'd like to think that was part of the reason it was so open and comfortable while so many other place were (and are) such sausage fests.

However, she had a real good nose for folks who played the gender swap game and was always the first to call them on it.
She was also a bloodhound on the net so she could prove her suspicions just about every time.
I can only think of one time she was wrong.

I'm willing to accept that there just might be sexy young Australian girl who needs our advice, so I'll take her at face value.
It's also possible that girl lives inside somebody who desperately wants a gender change so they have taken on the character.

 

I've been flaunting my sexuality in front of snowy for months but she pretends not to notice

Did I mention that I have a very active fantasy life?

 

@snowy ~Absolutely nothing wrong with having red flags raised. When a member's red flags are raised that in and of itself does not drive another member away from TFP.
My objection is about a demeaning act of intimidation that drove a member away.
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@rogue49 ~Yes I do appreciate the direct way you have responded to my objection so I will reply directly.

Your first sentence could be construed as demeaning even intimidating as you imply that you are speaking for other members:

Your second sentence is IMO outright intimidation:

Yes you did modulate your tone with her later in the post.

No you didn't ask her to leave but empathy and social perceptiveness give us the ability to understand why people react the way they do to the things we say and do.

 

I'm just amazed to find that someone says "meanie" in a real situation.

 

Internet autism, level 1, mild.

Only because Aspergers doesn't exist any more.
/carry on.

 

Ha! I once called an "agent of the enemy" on this board by someone who meant it. I got over it.

 

@rogue49 ~In the real world sex and politics are totally intertwined. In my real life I am totally into politics; I have to be because of my job and I love it.

I just wish that on the internet we could enjoy sex without all the fucking politics.

There I've done it I've contradicted myself as I have now waded into sex and politics inside TFP.

Don't worry I won't be joining any of your political discussion boards