I want to seduce my female friend

You don't sound like an asshole, I agree. Like I said, for some reason I just didn't feel comfortable with going further on my own initiative. With a guy I absolutely would have done something. Here, it's just tricky. So I guess maybe both of us just don't have the guts for it.

 

As an attempt to be the devil's advocate can I point out that many woman like romantic cuddles?
There are plenty of guys who would use this kind of intimacy as a way of creating trust and intimacy.
Granted they could get 'friend zoned' (I really don't like that term), if they aren't careful but it does work.

Might I suggest a massage the next time you cuddle?
Rub away the tension and stiffness that made her day difficult, make her pliable in your hands.
That might make her more likely to make a move.
And booze, booze is always good.

 

Straight up, she's waiting for you to make a move. She sees you as the "woman with woman on woman experience" and is waiting for you to take the lead.

I'm going to tell you a story that hopefully @damnitall won't kill me for sharing: We were obviously attracted to and interested in each other, and made those facts readily known when we were getting to know each other, but when we got together, even already knowing that she was interested in me, I needed her to make the first move due to my much more limited experience and general freaked out-ness.

JUST DO THE DAMN THING, respectfully. <3

 

And I'd do it all over again, no question. <3

 

You two are so adorable.

 

@redravin, that means a lot coming from you my friend. We wouldn't be where we are had it not been for this site, and you know exactly how that is. Thank you. <3

 

Alcohol + massage + intimate setting = perfect opportunity

Strategic use of humor can also lead to intimacy

 

Similar experience from my younger days with a woman who grew up across the street from me. We met up years later when she was a young widow with 2 young boys.

We went out several time, but it was pretty platonic. One evening she was at my apartment sitting in the sofa with me. We'd been having some wine and talking.

I said something that got her laughing and while we were doing this we hugged several times. I managed to get her laughing til she kinda fell into my arms in an extended highs. Next, we were kissing, which led to making out, etc.

It can happen. It could be that the lady is timid about expressing her true feelings

 

Et cetera!?!

Leave a fella hanging, why dontcha!

 

Like I said in another post, Fremen, one must be part of a very selective club to ride this roller coaster...


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Not to seem too self-serving, I should say that I've found massages to be an excellent precursor to further intimacy...

 

Dude, we've all figured you out. The way into your pants is the like button.

 

I fully endorse this message.


/paid for by the Emergency Council of Like-minded Individuals Keeping it Easy

 

Any weekend updates?

 

I'll see her again this coming week, and it will likely be the same sort of situation... hanging out with wine, TV.

But I almost feel like a creepster making plans with her at this point... like this weird quasi-sexual subtext is coloring everything between us. I guess all of our past experiences, including the recent one, ensure that this can't be a "normal friendship" anymore.

I'm just worried about crossing that line between "fun exploration between friends" into "OK, what's going on here?"

 

You need the old male standby, the massage table

 

She's likely not oblivious to these facts either, and if she had a problem with them she likely wouldn't keep coming over to hang out under the same circumstances. I think it could be fair to say that she's optimistic about the situation, even if quietly so.

 

I'm not understanding this. Unless you get some kind of kick out playing the situation as a game (tee hee hee, I want to, tee hee hee, I'm not going to, tee hee hee), make your feelings perfectly clear and let what happens happen, or let it go.