Does a more equality marriage mean less sex??

Does a more equality marriage mean less sex??

I'm linking it...because the article is way too long for here, but it's still great.

Now this is fascinating to me...because this is an opposite finding to what's PC.

But also it's a very fair and analytical piece...examining ALL perspectives for comparison.
Male/female, Female/male, Male/male and Female/female. Through all ages.

That sex can decrease because the partners in the marriage are more equal...not in classic roles.

It kind of makes sense...because many ladies prefer the bad boy.
Also many men want a woman that is respectful "outside", but more naughty in bed.

And while many women over the years of power growth, have learned to balance out their roles.
Men are still learning how to balance out being a partner, with being a MAN.

What do you think?
I find that this is true. That women want both....Just like men want both.
The librarian/dancer and The accountant/biker
Women have the "virgin/whore" complex...why can't men have something equivalent to them? (and what would that be called?? )

People are friggin' complicated...that's all I know.
Now I'm going to go split a pile of wood in the middle of the mall.
Where are my boots?

 

Hey, me too...

 

Well...two things. (even though they're fictional)
One...I could list out issues for all of those guys, including Superman. We're all not perfect. And it depends on the perspective and situation.
Two...Most of those guys, you don't know how they would be in a marriage or in bed. (even if you could get them in a marriage or bed...)

Being a hero/heroine, doesn't guarantee you'd be a good husband/wife, father/mother, lover, etc...
And these things flux thru life anyway...good one moment, bad the next.

What we need to be talking about are expectations...being realistic...and communication.
If you need/want more sex...you've got to put it out there.
And if you are & aren't responding to that...you've got to let them know why.

But let's be real here.
There are times, situations and couples that are never going to get it.
It could be both at fault, it could be one of them. And they may not be aware of it, even.
What do you do then???
Everything is good and fair in the marriage and otherwise...but that part is null or meh. (or just not enough for one...)

 

No, at least not in my experience.

I live in a pretty equal marriage, and I'd honestly say the fastest way to get in my pants is to clean the house and cook me dinner. That relieves a lot of stress!

That said, I took issue with some of the assumptions and phrasing in the article:

I dislike the gendering of chores. Who decided these chores were masculine or feminine? I've never viewed these chores as either/or--my parents did all of these things, oftentimes together, and it is the same with my in-laws. To me, chores are either disgusting or not disgusting, tedious or not tedious--they aren't really girl chores or boy chores. He takes the garbage out because I think it's gross. He cleans the cat box because that's gross. He folds the towels because that's tedious and I do it wrong anyway. He does the laundry because that's tedious. He cooks because we both enjoy cooking and we share that job. He vacuums sometimes when I'm busy with other chores, but that's a chore that I enjoy so I usually do it. He loads the dishwasher and I unload it--I have specific places I want things to be, and he doesn't pay attention to that, so my nitpicking means I do that chore (and that's okay). I keep the kitchen clean because I worked in foodservice and I have my own specifications for how a kitchen should be cleaned. I clean the bathroom because of the same reason (plus, the bathroom is his Black Hole chore--once he starts, he decides he's going to TEAR APART THE WHOLE BATHROOM and two hours later, a job that should have taken ten minutes is FINALLY done).

Speaking of which, I should really go vacuum, now that he's done tidying the living room.

 

This article confuses me.

According to this, stopping vacuuming and folding laundry will get me sex maybe once a month.

I totally don't see that happening.

/sciencefail

 

What correlates with lack of sex in my relationship is stress. Finishing up graduate school a couple of months ago, there wasn't a lot of sexin' going on.

Right now, our stress is very under control. It's not uncommon right now for us to have sex 3-4 times A DAY.

I know; it blows my mind too.

 

You would have blown my mind with "A WEEK."

 

That's good too. I'm pretty happy with that amount. Any less than that and my inner pervert takes over fully.

 

I periodically check the expiry dates on condoms. (They put twelve of them each box. Twelve!)

That's the street I live on.