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Cleaning Up After Yourself

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by SeanMyklKing, Oct 11, 2011.

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  1. Cayvmann

    Cayvmann Very Tilted

    Location:
    Central North Carolina
    As I get older, I certainly appreciate a more well-rounded human being, more than a hot body. Though I'm certainly not against good looking women, it's just not as important.
     
    Cayvmann, Oct 14, 2011
    #41
  2. Shadowex3

    Shadowex3 Very Tilted

    I do hope that works out and it's a pretty positive sign that she's at least willing to even pretend to entertain the idea, last time I heard a story that started like this was on somethingawful and it didn't end well. I'd still be on my guard personally, her reaction to me at least says there's more going on than just having no sense of cleanliness.

    I admit I sometimes have high standards, but they're also heavily slanted towards intelligence and good character.
     
    Shadowex3, Oct 14, 2011
    #42
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  3. DamnitAll

    DamnitAll Wait... what?

    Location:
    Central MD
    Goddamn, this sounds so familiar... or it did. I liked to call it "Hurricane T----."

    @SeanMyklKing, nearly two years after the fact, I sure hope this situation has improved for you.
     
    DamnitAll, Jan 13, 2014
    #43
  4. Charlatan

    Charlatan sous les pavés, la plage

    Location:
    Temasek
    Cleaning our house was, for me, a big bone of contention when we lived in Canada.

    Having live in help has taken that stress completely out of our lives. That and having one fewer kid making messes around the house.
     
    Charlatan, Jan 13, 2014
    #44
  5. DamnitAll

    DamnitAll Wait... what?

    Location:
    Central MD
    Get this—I had a dream last night about the ex leaving a path of destruction throughout my house.

    Oh, subconscious!
     
    DamnitAll, Jan 14, 2014
    #45
  6. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    Chores are a common source of conflict in adult romantic relationships. Based on what I've read in the literature and experienced, it comes from having different sets of expectations as to what's reasonable. We have different mess thresholds, different ways of cleaning, and different ways of seeing what needs to be done. Personally, I had to realize I wasn't communicating my expectations well when I asked my husband to clean something he didn't normally clean, like the bathroom. He'd decide it needed a deep cleaning and tear the whole bathroom apart, when really all it needed was a wipe down of all the surfaces. Generally, we do a pretty good job with the division of labor, but there are definitely times where I get frustrated that he isn't pulling his weight, even though I've asked him to. On the flipside, he does all of the chores I detest (dealing with the garbage, the cat box, and the laundry), so I tend to feel better about the whole situation after I've thought about it.
     
    snowy, Jan 14, 2014
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  7. Lordeden

    Lordeden Part of the Problem

    Location:
    Redneckhell, NC
    I use this analogy (metaphor?) when I talk about why customer's network connections don't work after cleaning up a virus infection. I call it the "ex-girlfriend" affect (effect?). You break up with someone and then on the way out they decide to break some shit before leaving. Your doorside trinkets had nothing to do with the GF, they are just collateral damage. Viruses do the same thing with windows services.

    Anyway....

    I agree with 2011 @Plan9, you can't fix slobs.
     
    Lordeden, Jan 14, 2014
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  8. Baraka_Guru

    Baraka_Guru Möderätor Staff Member

    Location:
    Toronto
    @Lordeden

    An analogy is a kind of metaphor that compares two things to show their similarities, often as a form of explanation or argument.

    Effect is a noun; affect is a verb: The Ex-Girlfriend Effect vs. The ex-girlfriend negatively affects your sanity.

    Also: customers'

    (The other stuff we'll let slide.) :D

    /threadjack
    /cleaningupafterLordeden
     
    Baraka_Guru, Jan 14, 2014
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  9. genuinemommy

    genuinemommy Moderator Staff Member

    I'm really quite happy that my husband and I have similar perspectives on cleanliness. He does his best not to make a mess, I clean to relax... we have a pretty well-kept house. He's capable of doing all of the chores in a pinch, and helps out with the occasional day devoted to deep-cleaning. It only becomes a problem when our 10-month-old decides she wants to help, too. That usually results in more of a mess. I want her to learn to have fun cleaning so we let her "help", but only if we're not pressed for time.
     
    genuinemommy, Jan 14, 2014
    #49
  10. Baraka_Guru

    Baraka_Guru Möderätor Staff Member

    Location:
    Toronto
    You just explained just about every really hot girl aged, maybe, between her teens and her mid-twenties.

    What about the hot thirtysomethings who also happen to be C-level executives? You can be as sure as shit that their places are immaculate, even if they have to pay someone to do it for them.

    A big issue, though, is that these women don't have time for our shit.

    That said, I'm a messy packrat.
     
    Baraka_Guru, Jan 14, 2014
    #50
  11. DAKA

    DAKA DOING VERY NICELY, THANK YOU

    Location:
    150 miles North of SOUTHERNMOST POINT IN THE US
    Neither of us "likes" to clean, so that is what MONEY is for, get someone else to do it....
     
    DAKA, Jan 25, 2014
    #51
  12. ASU2003

    ASU2003 Very Tilted

    Location:
    Where ever I roam
    I live alone, so any messes I make, I get to clean up. It just might take me a few months to get around to doing that...

    It is one reason why living in a small house or sailboat appeals to me. With less 'stuff', it is easier to keep clean, and with fewer areas that can get dirty, it won't take as long to clean.

    But, when I lived with roommates I was overly paranoid about being judged and would keep things fairly clean. Or at least not make a mess or leave stuff out in the common areas.
     
    ASU2003, Jan 26, 2014
    #52
  13. ASU2003

    ASU2003 Very Tilted

    Location:
    Where ever I roam
    .
     
    ASU2003, Jan 26, 2014
    #53
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