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Fidelity is easy / infidelity is hard

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by Street Pattern, Dec 8, 2013.

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  1. Baraka_Guru

    Baraka_Guru Möderätor Staff Member

    Location:
    Toronto
    Fidelity is easy when you're awkward with the womenz.
     
    Baraka_Guru, Dec 23, 2013
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  2. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    You're not awkward, just weird. There's a difference.
     
    snowy, Dec 23, 2013
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  3. Baraka_Guru

    Baraka_Guru Möderätor Staff Member

    Location:
    Toronto
    But is that an "eye of the beholder" kind of thing?
     
    Baraka_Guru, Dec 23, 2013
    #43
  4. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    My experience with this is that men often overestimate how awkward they are.
     
    snowy, Dec 23, 2013
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  5. hamsterball

    hamsterball Seeking New Outlets

    Location:
    Coming soon to a galaxy near you

    So there's hope for us....:p
     
    hamsterball, Dec 23, 2013
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  6. Plan9

    Plan9 Rock 'n Roll

    Location:
    Earth
    Yeah, after hanging out with you in meatspace I totally don't buy this. You have plenty of things going for you.
     
    Plan9, Dec 23, 2013
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  7. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    Precisely.
     
    snowy, Dec 23, 2013
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  8. hamsterball

    hamsterball Seeking New Outlets

    Location:
    Coming soon to a galaxy near you

    Now I really feel awkward......:oops:
     
    hamsterball, Dec 23, 2013
    #48
  9. Baraka_Guru

    Baraka_Guru Möderätor Staff Member

    Location:
    Toronto
    It must have been the bourbon. :cool:
     
    Baraka_Guru, Dec 23, 2013
    #49
  10. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    Pshaw.
     
    snowy, Dec 23, 2013
    #50
  11. mixedmedia

    mixedmedia ...

    Location:
    Florida
    It's always the sexy ones 'aw shucksin' it. It's true. I love that about them. ;)
     
    mixedmedia, Dec 23, 2013
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  12. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & be quiet.

    Location:
    Large City, TX
    Yes, I've had women who knew that I was married (I wore a wedding ring and frequently spoke fondly of my wife) hit on me, and it wasn't meaningless flirting.
    --- merged: Dec 24, 2013 at 9:23 AM ---
    This is very true. The offers came when I was in very good shape, 5'9" and a solid 195.
     
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    Chris Noyb, Dec 24, 2013
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  13. Stan

    Stan Resident Dumbass

    Location:
    Colorado
    I don't know that I'm awkward, it's more like clueless.
    My wife has complained several times about other women hitting on me.
    "She was hitting on me? Cool" , probably wasn't the best response.
     
    Stan, Dec 24, 2013
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  14. martian

    martian Server Monkey Staff Member

    Location:
    Mars

    That's only because you haven't worked out with me yet.

    ...

    Conceptually, fidelity is easy. Just don't stick your dick in her. Yeah, that's pretty straightforward. I'm perfectly willing and able to concede that in practice it can be far more complicated and difficult.

    I think cheating is on par with so many other bad things we do. I don't think a lot of people set out to cheat on their partner. There might be a few, but I think more often it's just one tiny step in that direction. And then another, and then another. Each one individually is harmless, but in aggregate they lead nowhere good.

    But, having never cheated on nor been cheated on, it's possible I have no clue what I'm talking about.
     
    martian, Dec 24, 2013
    #54
  15. Plan9

    Plan9 Rock 'n Roll

    Location:
    Earth
    Hahaha... I can see it now: "Alright, six sets of eight reps in a 80% pyramid... each punctuated by half a can of Milwaukee's Best."

    ...

    Well, it's never about the dick part. I'd say it's about that moment right before penetration where you're totally not thinking about the person down the street that you married and with which you share a mortgage.

    It feels horrible but the depression starvation is a killer way to get that shredded abs look you've always wanted.

    That and it really sharpens all their cute quirks into things you now see as psychotic twitches.
     
    Plan9, Dec 24, 2013
    #55
  16. Lindy

    Lindy Moderator Staff Member

    Location:
    Nebraska
    After numerous encounters with those who overestimate their smooth desirability, a little awkwardness is refreshing and uh, perhaps a little disarming as well.:cool:
    That is exactly what drew me to the guy I've been with for the last couple of years.
     
    Lindy, Dec 24, 2013
    #56
  17. mixedmedia

    mixedmedia ...

    Location:
    Florida
    Perhaps a little disrobing, as well. ;)

    (my mind is totally in the gutter today)
     
    mixedmedia, Dec 24, 2013
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  18. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    You're not alone, sister.
     
    snowy, Dec 24, 2013
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  19. mixedmedia

    mixedmedia ...

    Location:
    Florida
    Woohoo!
     
    mixedmedia, Dec 24, 2013
    #59
  20. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    Yes, but awkwardness is not tried and true either...I mastered that skill long ago. :p

    I'd say being comfortable with yourself is the best bet.
    Not douche-bag comfortable, or smoothy comfortable...just being in that "I don't give a shit" and I'm not aware of it zone.

    IMHO, the thing that truly keeps people faithful beyond their care/love for their partner...is the want to avoid chaos and consequences.
    You worked to hard to get where you want in your relationship...why complicate it? why risk it?

    If your SO said, sure thing, truly didn't mind, there were no social stigmas, etc...then there'd be a lot more fuckin' around.
    Unless, in truth, you're one of those that aren't really into it, then that's another story.
     
    Last edited: Dec 24, 2013
    rogue49, Dec 24, 2013
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