Homosexuality; If you could choose...

It's just not a period of photography that I prefer. Not studio photography at any rate...but we're getting way off the subject.

 

True. So...it must have been pretty brave to be gay during victorian times.

 

I think it depended on your talent and socioeconomic level.

 

Damn it, I had to google Victorian porn after reading this.

Funny thing is that some of the women completely shaved, so the more things change the more they say the same. I wonder how fun that was before safety razors and waxing

 

Ah I forgot about sugaring, though I do know the history of the safety razor due to being bored in a library and someone leaving a marketing book out in my cubical.

Threading as in you pull out using two threads much like tweezers?

 

Yes that what I figured, its popular with Hispanics in my local mall for eyebrows.

 

I had my eyebrows unexpectedly threaded once. It was unpleasant.

 

Glad they don't do pubes in the mall...

 

I would take the pill. I didn't realize that I'm gay until my senior year of high school. I had previously dated only guys; despite knowing that I was attracted to girls, I had hoped that I was bi, and that someday I would find a guy I could tolerate being with. It's difficult to find someone who wants to date, actually get to know a person before diving into the sex, and possibly settle down one day. I feel like it's easier for heteros to find lasting relationships. Not to mention, it would be nice to be un-disowned by my father, and be able to talk about and bring home my partner like my sister does.

I dunno. I literally cannot conceptualize what it would be like to be attracted to men. They're so... hairy... and rough looking. And waking up with stubble scratching me and getting poked by morning wood is just so ugh. Whereas women look so soft, and huggable and kissable, and usually smell nice... But to be able to turn that around, yeah I'd take the pill.

 

Generally Im against medicating.

 

Hard for me to say yes. I love everything about women way too much.

 

I agree those dudes are 'beautiful' but no matter how lovely a man looks, I've never wanted to have sex with them. This is what defines me as hetero. You really don't have to be gay to think a dude is good looking.

I hope there isn't such a pill, ever, and that people just start accepting that other people are different. The world is more interesting for the variety.

 

This breaks my heart.

I want to say more, but I can't figure out how at the moment.

 

Ditto.

<3

 

@CourteousViking, I'd give you a hug to make you feel better, but you'd find me repulsive despite my stubble-free face.

Seriously though, you do not deserve that sort of treatment. To disown a child over their sexual orientation is unthinkable to me.

 

If I were still in high school, or even in my first couple years of university, I would say yes to taking the pill. For a number of different reasons. Not least of which would be the fact that I had a best friend at the time, who was such a nice, kind, interesting, gentle guy. He loved me, and I wanted to be in love with him so bad. I knew since age 13 that I liked girls though, and try as I might, I could never feel that way for him.

The moment I first fell in love with a girl for the first time - that would probably be the time when I no longer would have said yes to that pill. Every now and then I think about how much easier it would be to be attracted to guys (or, more often, to just be a guy), I still don't think I would take that pill.

You're not alone. But don't lose all hope, things may one day get better. I was in a relationship for 2 years with the first girl I fell in love with. My mother didn't even want to hear about her at all... and this was a couple years AFTER I came out to my mom (so she had had plenty of time to come to terms with it all). I refused to go home for Christmas one year, but was welcomed at my girlfriend's house for the holidays. I think it was actually harder on my girlfriend than it was on me, she figured everyone in my family hated her. They never even got to know her.

I've been out to my mom for 10 years now and she's only just coming around. She actually kinda likes my current girlfriend, and my gf is actually allowed in her house. My sister used to be a huge homophobe, but last year she posted about gay rights on facebook and it seemed like she was actually proud to have a gay sister. I was completely floored. Things have changed when, as little as a few years ago, I never thought change would ever be possible.

If you ever need to talk with someone who knows what you're going through, feel free to send me a message.

 

@CourteousViking, ditto this. ^^^