Husband chronicles his wife's fight with cancer in photos.

I posted this on my Facebook a while back. I"d like to own a copy of the book.

 

Ugh, goddamn.

Weight.

...

I'll come back to this.

 

I saw this when @mixedmedia posted it a while back, and have actually had it on my mind almost constantly. I am still trying to wrap my thoughts around it.

Whenever I look at these pictures it evokes a very visceral response from me, even though they are complete strangers.

 

This drags up some uncomfortable memories.

 

This led me to ask.. do you think he took these pictures expecting her to pass from cancer?

That is what gets me I think - at what point does a "hey, let's document this so when it is behind us we can remember how much we went through" turn into an intentional series of snapshots leading up to the final goodbye.

 

It depends what she was sick with...

If he is anything like me, denial is a powerful coping strategy. He did not expect her to die.

 

My two cents, he is a photographer. He's gonna document it. From that perspective, it doesn't really matter. Glad he did, either way.

 

Same, I've been the patient. I'm not sure how I feel about this. I suspect I wouldn't allow the pictures to be taken, it's not how I'd want to be remembered.

That doesn't make the pictures any less poignant, just not something I'd agree to personally.

 

I remember when I first saw this series, rooting for her to live and then it became undeniable that she was dying. I cried. I didn't look at them this time because I don't wish to feel that way right now, in this moment.
Personally, if it were me dying, after I was dead, it would be fine for my photographer-partner to publish these. They have meaning and that meaning differs depending on our personal experiences with cancer and death.
I can see though how as a survivor, it would be hugely upsetting to look at them.

 

Considering that he was a photographer and she knew that, i highly doubt that there is any impropriety in the sharing of these photos. Plus, the proceeds from the sale of the book go to a related cause.

I won't abide by folks making up issues about this that don't exist. She knew.

 

I agree with you...of course she knew. Many commenters elsewhere seem to be flipping out about it, though.
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PS: Sincerely, I love how you say, "I won't abide." It's so distinctive, unique.

 

I lost both my parents to cancer. My dad when I was 19, my mom when I was 33. I documented her last week in a coma on tfp as it was occurring

 

It's just the Foghorn Leghorn in me.

 

Completely agree. Anyone suggesting otherwise is shit disturbing idiot.