Online Dating

I do get pissed off at posts sometimes then I realize I'm getting angry over text. Like this for example ... really pissed me off.

No. Please. Expound further. Disseminate. Pontificate. Diss-fucking-cuss. She came here for opinions and we're chock full of them. I want to know in MINUTE detail what flags you think you saw that I could have missed and so on and so forth.

But most importantly, I am bored god fucking dammit! ENTERTAIN ME!

FUCK!

 

You said I need to be more clear and direct. I've noted that and upon further reflection, agree. Not sure what more I can add to that?

@borla I agree. I probably was sending out mixed signals, unintentionally. I appreciate you pointing that out. I did feel comfortable with him, and when I asked him to take me to the store I think I was just a bit panicked and that was the fastest way in my mind to get us both dressed and out of the house fast.

I was never suggesting that I hadn't made my own errors, or that he was the only one to blame.

I appreciate the advice given from those of you that were intending to be helpful. It's not easy putting your own shit out there for people to dissect, even on the somewhat "anonymous" Internet. I'm just trying to find a better life than what I had.

 

Happy to entertain.

 

Did you guys discuss the possibility of sex before you made overnight plans? I would suggest that conversation happen before you ever agree to that sort of arrangement again. You're adults, sex happens.. It can deflate a lot of anxiety if you just air out that issue before it's upon you. Literally.

 

Well, color me stupid and presumptive.

Many apologies.

 

Yes, we did. I guess that's why I felt ok with him staying because we had discussed it before, that it would not be taking place. Go figure.

 

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Just speaking of online dating in general, I think in the future I am going to start responding to 'what's up?' and 'how you doing?' messages with my vitals. Vitals as in my heart rate, temperature, respiratory rate, blood pressure and oxygen saturation (or my best guess at oxygen saturation which is usually 98-99%).

 

OMG I love this idea! That could just be your standard response to those uninspired one-liners. I'd be curious to know how/if they would respond.

 

I'm a total social blockhead and haven't dated in decades so take this for what it's worth:
If we go on a date, and you invite me into your bed, the logical next step in my head is that we are going to be fucking.
If that isn't what you want to happen I would suggest not inviting guys into your bed.

Let me clarify that this applies to adult dating situations. I'm not even going to try to parse out what's done at the age of 16.
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And don't forget the 5th vital sign, pain level.
Sneakers could let the guy know right off the bat how bad her headache is.

 

Given many of us men can find a sexual angle to nearly (quite possibly) everything a ladies says I suspect a significant percentage will respond with something like "I'd like to saturate your oxygen."

 

You know, I can totally believe that he went there with the expectation of sex whether they talked about it beforehand or not. Guys never give up hope. But, come on, the dude played it like a wet sponge. As far as I'm concerned, if lying in bed cuddling for hours was the best seduction he had then he got exactly what he should expect. Sidelong glances.
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God, you're right. You people are so pathetic.

 

I dunno, I think if you guys can split atoms and eradicate polio you can handle two ideas at once. You've only had, what, 20 millenia or so to 'figure us out'? Sheesh.

 

Yes, and ladies have men figured out completely.

 

Well, I was making a joke based on Borla's post. It wasn't meant to be a declaration of some kind.

 

erm, yez...of course