Magnetism with other women

Hi guys, wie geht's?
To recapitulate and update you, I'm in a long distance relationship with a gorgeous girl. I'm with her since almost two years and a half, and since a couple of months I moved to Germany (from Italy) and now we are trying to making things working despite of the distance. We had some major up and downs in the last month but everything seems coming back to normality and we're keeping up.

The last night at a party I met a girl, (well, actually I met her wednesday, and found her again and danced with her at the party), and for the very first time since I'm with my current GF I felt magnetized by another woman (with my 5years ex-gf sometime yes, and that ended). I don't mean just a general kind of "that's an nice/attractive/supermegagigasexbomb girl".
I mean literal magnetism, that dumb attraction that polarize your attention and all you can do when there is the other person in the room is either looking or pretend to not look at. It was strong with my current GF, this time maybe even stronger...

In your opinion: Alarm bell ringing, or simple man hormones at work or both?

 

rogue49 is right. It's not the attraction itself that could be problematic; some primal instinct within us just naturally attracts us to other attractive human beings. It's what you decide to do with that attraction that could potentially cause problems.

In any event, unless you and your current girlfriend agree on it 100%, you won't be able to maintain more-than-friendly relationships with both women. Be faithful to one relationship; which one you choose, is completely up to you, but it is a choice that you have to make.

 

Thanks for the replies!
I don't want, and I don't think I even got the possibility, to screw my only relationship with this other girl. She's got a boyfriend too, and I wasn' exactly making the right moves definitely held by my commitment.

I just wanted your educated opinion if this is something naturally happening (thinking about it a girl that matches most of your ideals of visual and gestual beauty is something rare, and after 20 days of not ... can be quite a shock) or a clear alarm bell to the robustness of the relationship.

 

Under normal circumstances, magnets do not stick to women of any age. That said, magnets don't stop attracting other magnets once they're stuck to another magnet.But if a magnet is really hot, it stops attracting other magnets.

I guess what I'm saying is that I'm not going to give you any useful advice by making terrible analogies. It's perfectly normal to be attracted to other women even though you're in a committed, monogamous relationship as long as you don't go out and do romantic or sexual things with people other than your partner. There's nothing wrong with dancing with friends as long as you can figure out whether the kind of dancing you're doing is appropriate/just friendly or not.

 

In The Godfather, they call it "The Thunderbolt".


View: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W0iXfa2unYY


Taking stock of my own romantic life, I figure I suffer a large electric shock every two years or so. Really! Good thing I understand boundaries and don't pursue them because my wife would kill me.

It's totally natural because it's just the sum of attraction + accessibility. This is why we don't fall in love with celebrities: They're inaccessible behind glass. Also the reason we're not afraid of Tigers in a zoo. But the girl who laughs at your joke one night and then dances with you the next? Rumble...Rumble...Kapow!

 

Minghia sei rimasto colpito da un fulmine?
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Well more or less was like that. That was more or less what happened when I met my actual girlfriend.

That was given by mainly two things: both of them are wild and gorgeous and social and always smiling goddess. And this german one looks alike Karen Gillian that is my personal most sexual arousing actress ever...

That's life!