Forever single...

I'm sorry but i don't believe in destiny or true love.. if i like the guy and eventually he will propose to me one day i guess i'll say yes or vise versa but in the mean time i'm giving my time and energy at my work..

 

"You'll never get anywhere unless you dance poorly and fart on a few girls."

It's funny but I wonder if there is truth in that.

 

The secret to my success, actually.

 

Marriage is just plain nuts, when you think about. The lifelong commitment part is absurd on the face of it. People change. We change. Our partners change. I know and have known more than my share of married couples who are immensely unhappy in their marriage but stay in it anyway. For the kids, for the house, for the vows to "love, honor and cherish 'til death do us part." for the finances, for the neighbors, for the community. For every reason imaginable. But too often the real reason is because of fear of the unknown and fear of being alone.

How can we make a lifelong commitment to stay with someone without the benefit of seeing into the future? If we make the commitment, it should be with the full knowledge that there may come a time when the person we married is not the person we want to continue living with. As young married couples we have no doubt that we will love each other forever. We're are not inclined to recognize the fault in that line of thinking.

Of course, there are plenty of marriages involving couples who do continue to love each other and desire each other's companionship above all others for their entire lives. But how can we know initially if we will be that couple? We don't.

Marriage requires commitment but commitment does not require marriage. Decide what the marriage benefits are to you. If they outweigh the fact that somewhere down the line, the man you married might turn out to be someone you no longer want to eat with, sleep with and share a life with, then take the plunge.

If not, then there's no reason why you can't commit yourself without getting legally entangled.

My current husband and I would probably have foregone the marriage part if it wasn't required for me to stay in the UK.

Edit: Wow, just realized how old this thread is.

The OP's probably married by now.