Wants to date a dental school student

Hello

I have this crush issue.

I am getting treated at local dental school for cheap price.
I am a undergraduate school student so I get to pay really cheap to get treated by 3rd and 4th year of dental school students. (also I am pre-dental as well)

Moment I first saw my student doctor, I was like "Oh My God, Why can't someone like you in undergrad???" He was not the most perfect guy I have ever met but he was so great.
I can tell he is mature, nice, intelligent, outgoing, polite and all the good stuff from his postures, way he walks, way he interacts with his peers and professors, and way he talks to me.

I am more mature than my age of girls so most of boys were like "boys" not men to me. (I am 20 yrs old..so you know how young 20 yrs old guys are...especially compare to 26 yrs old guys)

I couldn't really do anything then on last valentine's day, I wanted to ask him out for a date..if he is interest in it or not
then I found out he has girlfriend (of course all the good guys have girlfriend!!)

Then, now I get to help him out for his board exam (as patient) and he said conventionally students pay $50-ish to their volunteer patients for volunteering for them but he was like "or I can buy you a lunch or dinner later".

Now I am not sure I should make move on him.
two problems are presented here...1) he is my doctor. 2) He may or may not have girlfriend at this moment.

I really like him....but he is graduating (and going to another city for residency..so there is possibility he broke up with his girlfriend!!)

I know it is bad to feel something for guy who may or may not have girlfriend at this moment...
also he is older than me...(like 6 yrs ish..)

so..please give me advice...on how to approach this.
(if you want to tell me stop chasing this guy..give me a good reason for it!! my friends already tried to go through this whole "he is older than you and he said he has girlfriend only a month ago" but I still have crush on him.

so..help???

 

Regrets are usually the result of things we don't do. You sound as if you are not sure whether he is spoken for or not. Do the dinner date and find out for sure. If he is committed to someone, at least you've potentially made a friend. If he's not and you two hit it off...

(Off topic: your post reads as if English is not your primary language. No problem, if so. Just curious to your background. Welcome to our little slice of heaven! )

 

If this is going to go any further you need to transfer to another dentist ASAP.
I'd say he is interested in you because he basically asked you out. But as a professional he needs to end the dentist-patient relationship if he wants to pursue a romantic connection.

 

English is not my first language.
but I was also writing it on my phone..so I was careless about whole typing process.
I am trying to work on my English as well, however, as you can tell, I am not doing so well.

by the way, thank you for the advice. I am not so scared about demanding dinner date with him now. (I was thinking about just take $50 to avoid any possible lunch or dinner date I would love to have...)

Just out of curiosity, do guys like to date younger girls??
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oh by the way, he did give me to his friend who is having problem with getting patients.
(He is 4th year, so no need for him to take my case to fill the requirements or get grades. However his friend needs some patients to fill his clinical requirements to pass. so I am getting treated by this other dental school student....)

So you think the way he said "or I can buy you a lunch or dinner" means...he is interest in me?! WOW!! I wasn't sure about it! thanks!

 

Your English is better than more than a few Americans who speak nothing but English. I never belittle people who may have some difficulties when using or typing it as a second language, because I can guarantee I cannot speak whatever their native tongue is on a level anywhere near conversationally. Even if I could, demeaning someone like that would do no good.

 

LadyDiana, I don't think he can be any clearer that he wants to get to know you better. If you are interested, you should go out with him.

 

Your English is fine. Good for you having more than one language.

Go out with him and find out if he's taken or just messing around.

 

Speed_Gibson Thank you very warm and kind!
the_jazz You think so? I have to see...I would love to believe that he is interest in me....but it also seems like impossible since he is going to be DDS when I am trying to get into a dental school....
Cayvmann Thank you for commenting on my English I try hard. I will go out with him if he asks me again about lunch or dinner. I would love to have lunch or dinner with him than getting $50 from him. even if he is messing around with me...i would have chance to be friends with him, which is not so bad!

thank you!
btw, do guys like girls younger than them for relationship? Girls don't want to date someone immature than they are (unless the guys are really hot)...
Just want to know about it...sorry about digging up whole man psychology here..

 

For me it would depend on just how much younger especially. Any woman in the 20-23 range automatically gets a "too young" stamp in my head. That could change if I knew them better, saw they were mature, or had strong common interests such as thinking that watching a marathon of Marx Brothers films on DVD is a fantastic way to spend the better part of a day , but it would have to be overcome on some level.
Six years younger is not bad at all.

 

1- If he asked you out, and you like him, why not give you a chance? He can later be proven as a perfect jerk trying to cheat on a girlfriend or going for cheap 20$ dinner and some chat instead of 50$, but it is definitely worth a try! About the other girlfriend: don't judge before you know. About he going abroad: don't judge before you know. In order to know, you have to give you a chance.
20/26 is perfectly fine. Don't say the thing "I'm very mature for my age. Boys my age are dumbasses...etc..." because every fucking girl on the planet says it and I'm tired of it. But even if in different point in lives, maturation, jobs...etc... a relationship can endure. I have 6 years difference with my girlfriend, I work abroad and we have an healthy (at least until now) distance relationship, I have a doctorate and few years of working experience she is an undergrad stud and we are on completely different point in lives, but seems that is working out perfectly up to now...
2- Don't leave regrets behind.
3- I don't understand this doctor-patient thingy... She is going to him because is cheap, she is not choosing her lifelong doctor... If things get weird she can change later. If things goes good there is I don't see anything wrong if your dentist is your boyfriend or a not.

 

A lot of guys like younger women. I used to only date women my age, but my wife is almost 17 years younger than me. ( she pursued me. silly female ) A few years difference isn't a big deal.

 

Speed_Gibson thank you for your thoughts! Those are interesting things to do!
Raghnar THank you for giving me advice on the whole "I am mature" one. I dont' say it but I can't deny I am attracted to older guys because they are mature..and for boys at my ages...they are attractive but more like "younger brother" attarction..like..they are cute. but I would never use word "cute" to describe this guy I like. also the doctor-patient thing..if thing go bad...doctor can lose their licenses..and never be able to work as doctor again since is is bit unethical. That's why I couldn't ask him out earlier and I had to approach this really carefully. In Texas, doctors are allow to date their patient IF the doctor didn't treated for last 2 years. So..there are lots of restrictions..
Cayvmann Wow 17?! wow...Iguess 6 yrs won't matter too much...it is not like I am minor or anything illegal. Thank you

 

you never know, until you try.

just tell him you're going to take him on that date he mentioned, and see where it leads. whats the worst that can happen?

if men didnt like ogling at younger women, you wouldnt find as many mondels and porn stars in their twenties.

drop the fear factor about your age. my wife is 4 years younger, and i still think she's more mature than me.

 

This is more or less normal imho.
Women are attracted by experiences-insight and that-type-of-thing that the man can offer. Older men can offer more of everything, expecially if intellectual/professionally realized.

I didn't know that. In Italy I think is fairly common. Doctors treat their girlfriends, relatives, and wives...
Seems to me that americans are a bit obsessed with that type of thing... luckily I was not in US when teaching to first year students, if you know what I mean :O

 

This is quite true. We also have larger penises and amazing dance moves. Also, women faint when they orgasm with us. Always.

You just have to get over that hair in the nostril and ears thing.

As to your quandary, remember this is a prospective dentist. Dentists are odd (and a bit scary). Tread carefully.

 

Oh Oh here is another questions...he is 26 yrs old ish..(27 may be)...he has/had girlfriend.
I am assuming he had sex already (a lot of dental school students said..."Have regular sex partner when you are taking Anatomy..you will learn a lot...if you know what I mean" )

I never had sex...i mean...I have been pretty good students...who never ever fool around..and I never had serious relationship with anyone yet.
some of guys friends i know said they want the girls to be experienced and they want girls to know what they are doing in bed.
do you think..um...being a virgin can be turn down??

 

if everyone thought that way, we'd all still be virgins.

 

Depends on the man, and on the type of relationship.
At the end for a serious relationship I don't think it does matter at all.
For a one-nighter experience is the most important thing

All nuances in the middle.

 

Someone who isn't OK with you being a virgin isn't the kind of person you want to be with for your first time.

 

I think the ethics thing is a problem. Dump him as a dentist first. Dont know about Italy, and treating wives and girlfriends - do know my vet has practiced on his wife, but he was married to her first. He told me when he was burning/freezing a wart off an old dog - doesnt hurt, I've done it to my wife kind of thing. Dog screamed long and loud, and everyone in the surgery heard her - hee hee.
As for age - personal choice, and personal development makes a difference in say mental age (for want of a better word) rather than physical. Of course, extreme differences in age could mean you should first think about how you would roll the corpse off of you if the need arose - but that could also come with heath problems when people are of the same age, but different physical ability.
On another thread - didnt know you were not of an english speaking peoples .