after the break-up

I guess what I mean is, for the prototypical beta male to which we're referring (to my understanding)—that is, someone that isn't adept with the dating scene and takes a backseat role to going out and finding a partner or mate—is it more appealing to go from long term relationship to long term relationship once he finds one in order to maintain the security of not having to date?

I'm sure I'm making assumptions left and right here, but does that make sense?

And thanks, Borla, for your response—that makes sense to me.

Goddamn, this whole single adult bi-sexualized personhood thing is going to be fucking confusing... and maybe even a little fun.

 

I'm usually a serial monogamist, but I'm not sure if I would necessarily consider myself a beta-female? I'm in a weird mixture of the alpha/beta, I think. I don't necessarily chase after people I'm interested in dating, but I'm not against it. Part of that, I think, was going to a college that was 75% male. I could chase after someone, or I could hang around until someone decides to chase me or get drunkenly hit on by someone at party. I also end up in the "friend zone" a lot (even though I hate that term, a person is not a vending machine you put kindness coins into until sex falls out) - and to me, it's not a bad thing, it just stings when they chase someone else instead.

I guess moral of the story, I think anyone can be a serial monogamist, it just might be more common with those who don't like to chase.

 

I think when guys (some) get horny and/or drunk alpha/beta means little.

Having said that, time to drink!

 

Agreed (on both counts)!
Also, I think when women (some) get horny and/or drunk alpha/beta means little.

 

Dating is really fucking fun. Dating is really fucking terrible. As far as I'm concerned it is absolutely worth it, but it's challenging. And you grow if you do it right (euphemisms aside).

On the other topic, I agree with this (but yes I'm aware of the "friend zone" discourse and think it's a problem term):

 

As a gamma male, I don't even get asked to make a decision.

 

I'd have to agree with your whole post (including the alpha/beta arguments.) I don't know as much about the inner-workings of your relationship with your wife, but you seem to be very in-love and committed to making the relationship work. (At the same time, this is the internet. Maybe you've made the whole thing up and you're not married and there is no Stanley. )

 

This.